How did you *decide on* your wife?

[Schmoe]

Originally Posted By: Vilan
Honestly, I've dragged it out long enough already. I don't want to miss my chance, but... boy howdy. I don't know how anyone does it. Any words of wisdom from the newly or not-so-newly weds?


That really scares me....she's got you convinced and already getting into your phsyche. Your cool with that? What do you want? Any, I do mean ANY doubt speculation, as in your post, means you are no where ready. In order to be the man, you got to become the man........

 

[d00df00d]

Originally Posted By: Schmoe
The domination has already started.

Only if you let it.

 

[bigmike]

Originally Posted By: d00df00d
Originally Posted By: Schmoe
The domination has already started.

Only if you let it.


And if you're into that sorta thing.

 

[aquariuscsm]

I meant to ask in my post,how old are you and your girl and how long have yall been together?

 

[Pop_Rivit]

I'm closing in on 40 years of marriage, and my wife is still my best friend, confidant and partner. I can't imagine anyone else filling that role, she's simply the best. I still smile every time I think of her, and when she walks in the door the room seems a little brighter.

We dated a year before we were married. No "living together", no "prenuptial agreement". If we weren't sure we'd be compatible for life, then we would not have married.

If your heart jumps a little when she walks into the room, if you think alike, if your strengths compliment her weaknesses (and vice versa), if you can walk and hold hands for an hour, not say anything, but still know what the other is thinking, then she's the right one for you.

 

[Papa Bear]

Originally Posted By: Pop_Rivit
I'm closing in on 40 years of marriage, and my wife is still my best friend, confidant and partner. I can't imagine anyone else filling that role, she's simply the best. I still smile every time I think of her, and when she walks in the door the room seems a little brighter.

We dated a year before we were married. No "living together", no "prenuptial agreement". If we weren't sure we'd be compatible for life, then we would not have married.

If your heart jumps a little when she walks into the room, if you think alike, if your strengths compliment her weaknesses (and vice versa), if you can walk and hold hands for an hour, not say anything, but still know what the other is thinking, then she's the right one for you.


+1

Mama Bear and I will be 40yrs in October.

To answer the question "How did I decide", she was the first to say YES

Marriage is like anything else, it's what you make of it..

 

[Mr Nice]

Unfortunately in these times....I've seen many, many people wanting to 'marry up'

You know the person who can pretty much give them a free ride as long as they can keep sweet talking

 

[RacerE7773]

Originally Posted By: river_rat
Marry yout best friend. If you aren't on the same team, forget it.
You want it to be mutual, unconditonal support...kind of an "us against the world thing." Not a critiquing or trying to change each other thing.

My wife said four words I never thought I would hear a girl say: "I like Star Trek."

That there sealed it.

 

[Vilan]

Thanks all for the advice! Everything helps. Been feeling better about it lately. Getting my head sorted out.

Not sure about Star Trek, but she does love Lord of the Rings. And not (only?) for hunk gazing. And she has a 79 Power Wagon that she can just about rebuild on her own. I may be onto a good thing...

 

[Gary Allan]

Hmmm.. 79 Power Wagon, huh?

You've been holding out on us here, Vilan.

At least she comes with a decent dowry

 

[AcuraTech]

I'm not married, but we live together and are about *this* close to being there.

I actually stalked her, I had a crush on her in high school and wanted to find out what became of her years later. So I Google searched her name and found it mentioned on one of her friends MySpace profiles. So I MySpace messaged the friend asking her if it would be OK to get her email address. Thinking of email as relatively harmless, after consultation with m'lady, her friend obliged.

So I emailed her explaining that I had a crush on her in high school and was wondering what she was up to. After a few emails we began hitting it off wonderfully and bonding over a mutual interest in fine cooking and gin. It took off from there, and we've been living together for 3 years now.

Boy it was great the first year or so, her family would ask how we met, and I would have to admit to stalking her on Google. Wonderful stuff, hey?

 

[crinkles]

my wife didn't tell her family about me until a month before i met them. (online stuff). We'd been writing for 3 years by then. "hey dad my future husband will be here next month". coming from someone who'd never had a BF her family was pretty shocked...