Crazy neighbor rant

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I'm having quite a few problems with my next door neighbor, who I don't want to take to court, not only because it takes a long time reach an agreement, but a travel ban is imposed on both parties until the court case is dealt with.

I live in a house that is attached to the neighbor's, just like all the other houses in the neighborhood. When he was building his property, he dealt with a bunch of con artists who were overpaid and under delivered. So he's got a water leak problem in his basement.

It started off last year. I'm a big fan of plants, especially in a desert climate, so I used to have a bunch of daffodils at the back of the house, which were in a 4 meter row, to sort of put a border between his parking area and mine. He started complaining about water leaks in his basement because I was watering these plants, and it got to a point where my family decided there's no need to be on bad terms with the neighbors and relocated them to the garden.

Then he started complaining that every time I wash my vehicles (once a week), he has water leaking into his basement and that my pressure washer was the cause. Again, to maintain good relations, I started using a bucket instead and now my paintwork is swirl galore. Apparently, whenever I cleaned my wheels, there was also water going in, so now I have to pay to use a car wash. Then I have the inconvenience of taking two different vehicles separately. He even complains because I have "great big cars" when a "4 cylinder is more than enough".

The next thing I know, he complains about a small bird house I built that's at a corner of my garden. I put it there because it's always in the shade, and tend to leave some bird seed there and fresh water for all the sparrows and pigeons. Apparently, they were flying around and making a 'huge' mess on his premises. Same complaint because I was feeding stray cats. Then I had to get rid of it all together.

Recently he started complaining about me working on my cars, after seeing me pull part of the dashboard apart to replace bulbs, and I was told off because "this is a residential neighborhood and not a garage". That really got on my nerves, because it's simply none of his business what I do on my property, provided I'm not doing anything illegal. So we ended up having quite an argument.

Today, something else happened. There was a small group of cyperus (desert) plants growing where I used to have my daffodils. I was temporarily leaving them untouched, whilst trying to allocate a place for them in my garden. I walk out this morning only to find they have been pulled out and thrown away. I haven't physically seen him do it, but another neighbor was asking me why my neighbor was so stingy about my plants and water usage. This is just getting out of hand!
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My advice is to do what you want on your property and don't give a hoot about your neighbor because your neighbor clearly doesn't care about you. Your neighbor is going to keep pushing for things as long as you keep giving in.
 
Sounds like the neighbor from [censored]! I had a similar problem 6 months ago with my neighbor, nosy guy in his mid 50s, im in my early 30s. I moved here 2 years ago, from day 1 he has always talked to me like im 10 years old, always getting involved in my business, if I work on my cars or do any outdoor house project he complains to my landlord(I rent). Finally, I had enough, confronted him outside infront of some other neighbors, totally went off on him for 10 minutes, guy was speechless. I am a polite guy, respect my elders, but enough was enough. Guy was making my life [censored] here. Long story short, I learnt that people like this have usually never been told to go to [censored], they are used to bullying others, neighbor totally did a 180 change after this. Guy stays out of my way, waves when he sees me, talks a lot more politely, no complaints out of his at all! My suggestion, next time he says anything, start yelling at the top of your voice, varbally abuse the daylights out of him, if the other neighbors come out its even better! It will work like magic! Good luck
 
Sounds just like my neighbor - a retired guy with nothing else going on in his life.
 
I guess that goes to show that there are bad neighbors all around the world.

I've had my share. From the "you gotta' be kidding" annoying neighbors to mean just for being mean types like yours.
 
Do what you want, period. Unless you're breaking laws, he can't do squat. Sooner or later, Firstnissan is right, you're going to have to get in his face. He already has brow beaten you....you got to stop it now. I know, it sucks you have to go through this, but that's the way it is. He set the stage, now you got to get up there. I don't think a court can do anything at this point, I mean, what could you file?
 
I have a neighbor like that. He is in his 60's and has nothing to do and all day to do it. So trivial things become important to him.
When he says stuff to me I chuckle and tell him to get a hobby or go back to work. That i am too busy to worry about the things he does.
 
Be careful how or if you escalate this. He could be a sociopath and ANY type of confortation plays right into his hands. Its almost impossible to deal with this type of person. This is exactly why people search for isolated properties with NO NEIGHBORS!!
 
Start making a list and keep up with it.

My bet is that you will have to pop a cork.

I have retirees all over my neighborhood. I appreciate them watching everything, but I don't care what they think. You have to make it known that you don't care what they think.
You might have to be obviously rude or perhaps mean.

He sounds like he is a bully. I'd prepare to be mean when you pop your cork.

BTW, I feel your pain. 20 Years ago the "Adams Family" moved next to my parents. 5 children grew up in that house, and you never saw any of them.
The folks always thought it was my folks who called Child Protective Services on them, but they never did.
The city code enforcement know them by name as they let their yard grow knee high before attempting to mow it, fire and rodent magnet. At about 6"-8" of dead grass they start writing you tickets.
All trees and bushes are out of control. Ant piles that are as tall as the grass. All kinds of weird stuff going on over there.
I think the most recent one is that the post office got onto them for parking in front of the mailbox too often (everyday).

Point is, people are strange. You can do whatever you like, within the law, but bully's only understand force.
 
I would plant a new variety of plants into a colorful expression of your choosing directly in view of one of his windows, to let your neighbor know exactly what you think of him.

Then, put up a camera to record that garden.
Should anything ever happen to the garden, you will have him for trespassing and destruction of property, and possibly even theft if he physically removes them from your property.

It will most likely take a while before he notices what the garden says.

BC.
 
Originally Posted By: Blaze
Be careful how or if you escalate this. He could be a sociopath and ANY type of confortation plays right into his hands. Its almost impossible to deal with this type of person. This is exactly why people search for isolated properties with NO NEIGHBORS!!
That's what we had to do . Had 2 neighbors that kept getting more aggressive . One would watch the house like a hawk and when outside doing yard work he'd come over to make comments / mild threats . Then the other one is a mean drinker and had a few close calls of violence with him . He also said we were tree huggers and stated " Now there's one in the White House " . There were many other things done and said that inspired the move .
 
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I don't have any personal experience for you, my nearest neighbor I can see from the house is a 1/2 mile away... But its interesting to read about what life in Kuiwat is like. I would've never have guessed there were flooded basements there.
Personally I wouldn't do the passive aggressive stuff, just tell him how its going to be(maybe offer a small concession help him with his ego), make sure you are legal and let him know you are going to record his activities.
 
I say go back to doing what you were doing.
Wash your cars, etc.
Tell him HE can deal with HIS problems, and that's that.
 
Turn the tables on him. Become a royal pain in his butt. Every time you see him,complain about something he is doing.

If that doesn't work,walk over and kick him in the nads.
 
Originally Posted By: SuperDave456

BTW, I feel your pain. 20 Years ago the "Adams Family" moved next to my parents. 5 children grew up in that house, and you never saw any of them....

All trees and bushes are out of control. Ant piles that are as tall as the grass. All kinds of weird stuff going on over there...

I think the most recent one is that the post office got onto them for parking in front of the mailbox too often (everyday).


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