Originally Posted By: Carnoobie
Originally Posted By: 01rangerxl
You know what? After reading this post, I am absolutely CONVINCED that one of these scenarios is true. Scenario number 1) You must be completely pulling everyone's leg here on Bitog and only start these ridiculous threads in order to see what folks here will solicit in response. Or....scenario number 2) You are totally incapable of making decisions that take the VERY slightest...tiniest...most miniscule bit of courage and prefer instead, to be a doormat.
There just isn't any other POSSIBLE reason.
One last question though....were you raised in a single parent household by your mother? It truly seems obvious that you've not had a normal male figure involved in your upbringing.
Im not pulling anyones leg. Im telling it as it is, if you dont want to believe me, then fine, I cant force you. Do you not think there was a more shocked person at my birthday dinner than me? Trust me, I was a bit taken back by it when I had to pay my own dinner and cake.
And #2 is right, I sometimes dont know how to go about decisions so thats why i asked others. Now I have ideas on how to go about the next dinner.
The reason why I dont want to bring this up with them is cause I have 3 sisters, all older, all will gang up on me and Id have no one to back me up. And well lets just say, one I dont get a long with (we dont even talk), and the other 2 can be a bit rocky at times but we get along in general. A while back they said the reason for them charging me is cause Im an adult now and can pay my own way at all family gatherings. Life isnt free and they dont want me freeloading or relying on others. According to them, they said inviting me over to their place and charging me for the food I eat is no different than us going out to a restaurant and me paying my bill.
You don't really listen to the advice offered here but instead you seem to prefer to come up with more complexities....thereby giving yourself more and more excuses as to why you can't be assertive.
In all honesty you seem a rather hopeless person in a world full of others that will take advantage of you because they sense weakness. Humans are like animals in that regard. If they can they WILL dominate you. This is what you have allowed these females to do to you. It's embarrassing actually. You are a man....not a little boy or a meek female, correct? Don't you have a father to get advice from? A stronger brother perhaps? You really should seek some professional counseling if you can't make some changes in your life. Asking advice on a message board will only get you so far in this matter. You certainly must realize that the cause of all this is your lack of assertion, right? I'd love to be in your shoes for a week and straighten all this out for you. It would be simple and fun. But YOU are the one that needs to do it. Your sisters are doing what comes natural in human existence...domination, manipulation, and control of the weak.
Originally Posted By: 01rangerxl
You know what? After reading this post, I am absolutely CONVINCED that one of these scenarios is true. Scenario number 1) You must be completely pulling everyone's leg here on Bitog and only start these ridiculous threads in order to see what folks here will solicit in response. Or....scenario number 2) You are totally incapable of making decisions that take the VERY slightest...tiniest...most miniscule bit of courage and prefer instead, to be a doormat.
There just isn't any other POSSIBLE reason.
One last question though....were you raised in a single parent household by your mother? It truly seems obvious that you've not had a normal male figure involved in your upbringing.
Im not pulling anyones leg. Im telling it as it is, if you dont want to believe me, then fine, I cant force you. Do you not think there was a more shocked person at my birthday dinner than me? Trust me, I was a bit taken back by it when I had to pay my own dinner and cake.
And #2 is right, I sometimes dont know how to go about decisions so thats why i asked others. Now I have ideas on how to go about the next dinner.
The reason why I dont want to bring this up with them is cause I have 3 sisters, all older, all will gang up on me and Id have no one to back me up. And well lets just say, one I dont get a long with (we dont even talk), and the other 2 can be a bit rocky at times but we get along in general. A while back they said the reason for them charging me is cause Im an adult now and can pay my own way at all family gatherings. Life isnt free and they dont want me freeloading or relying on others. According to them, they said inviting me over to their place and charging me for the food I eat is no different than us going out to a restaurant and me paying my bill.
You don't really listen to the advice offered here but instead you seem to prefer to come up with more complexities....thereby giving yourself more and more excuses as to why you can't be assertive.
In all honesty you seem a rather hopeless person in a world full of others that will take advantage of you because they sense weakness. Humans are like animals in that regard. If they can they WILL dominate you. This is what you have allowed these females to do to you. It's embarrassing actually. You are a man....not a little boy or a meek female, correct? Don't you have a father to get advice from? A stronger brother perhaps? You really should seek some professional counseling if you can't make some changes in your life. Asking advice on a message board will only get you so far in this matter. You certainly must realize that the cause of all this is your lack of assertion, right? I'd love to be in your shoes for a week and straighten all this out for you. It would be simple and fun. But YOU are the one that needs to do it. Your sisters are doing what comes natural in human existence...domination, manipulation, and control of the weak.
