Married a LONG time.

The biggest challenge of my marriage is not money, it is to listen and not be a fixer.

I am a fixer by nature, and want to fix whatever the issue is before the sentence is even fully out of my wife's mouth. What I continue to fail to grasp is my wife just wants me to listen, the fix is a distant second to fully listening.
 
AZjeff said:
45 years today in fact. Lots of ups and downs but we're still hanging in there. Wouldn't trade her for 2- 30 YOs.

Best thing we did was get married in 1980, now all I have to remember is add 20 to the year and I know how long we've been married. The date is tougher, wish it was 10/22 like the Ruger😁🥰
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👏 Clapping / Congrats. I know what it takes to last. Not always easy but it HAS to be good for you all to last. We just made 47 legal and 50 knowing each other. We had a good explosion this morning about me trying to put off the new vehicle (I over analyze everything to death as I am older) but the main thing is that within 30 minutes all was good again. I think the men here with those kind of years are truly blessed that any woman can put up with us guys! Keep up the good work. It only gets better when it is the right one (which you seem to have proved!)
 
GON said:
The biggest challenge of my marriage is not money, it is to listen and not be a fixer.

I am a fixer by nature, and want to fix whatever the issue is before the sentence is even fully out of my wife's mouth. What I continue to fail to grasp is my wife just wants me to listen, the fix is a distant second to fully listening.
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It's a fundamental thing. Men fix problems. Sometimes, the problem is more than the problem.
 
My wife and I married in 1965 while I was still in the Navy. 60 years last June.
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Congratulations!

Next year will be our 10th year married. We were 21 and 19 when we got married, and despite the entire deck being stacked against us (we had our 1st son a year prior, Ive been stuck on night shift and for 11 years working 12's on nights, etc) we only grow closer and closer every year. We are each other's best friends.
 
Skippy722 said:
Congratulations!

Next year will be our 10th year married. We were 21 and 19 when we got married, and despite the entire deck being stacked against us (we had our 1st son a year prior, Ive been stuck on night shift and for 11 years working 12's on nights, etc) we only grow closer and closer every year. We are each other's best friends.
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(y) Praise to you and her. OMG. The old 12 hr nights used to kill me. I had bad insomnia and could never get enough sleep.
Before we had kids, I loved the shift works. Except we worked the 8 hours ones. 7-3 / 3/11 then 11-7 shifts. I loved that.
I would get off at 0700am. Go into the woods hunting / trapping or fishing for 4-5 hours. I then would get home , do lunch with wife
and go and try to sleep till about 0700pm. Get up later and watch tv and spend time with wife. She went would then go to sleep and I went to work and left house about 1045pm. So lucky I was , I lived about 10 minutes from the plant site. I hated it once someone came with the bright idea "put them on 12hr day/night rotating schedule." I used to suffer staying awake and getting thru those long 12hrs.
Once we had the boys and I had enough seniority I was able to put in a job bid to take a straight 8 hour a day job.
After several years they put us on a 10 hours / 4 day a week work schedule. That was heaven. Off every night and 3 day weekends with wife and kids. Enjoy those kids. One day , boom. You are gonna be going to graduations and maybe weddings etc... and saying "wow, it
seems like just yesterday, they were just kiddies....:unsure: TIME flies.
 
GON said:
What I continue to fail to grasp is my wife just wants me to listen, the fix is a distant second to fully listening.
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Funny you stress this point.

Often, we have to make an afternoon phone call to settle on dinner time; early or late.
Early on, I had to recall the name of her beauty salon to look up the number to reach her.
The receptionist just walks over to the future Mrs. Kira to say one word; early or late.

This consideration, I was told, initiated an intense chatter session focused on men listening. Everyone took part.
I was awarded many 'boyfriend points" that afternoon.
It was quite the revelation to me.

To this point, it's painful when you witness couples having truly stupid arguments when some minor issue comes up.
Attentive communications, which require fewer words and saves time, is MEGA-KEY.

We're married only 13 years....so I keep public sageness to a minimum.
 
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Congratulations!!!

We celebrated 25 years in June with our trip to Alaska. I agree it is nice looking at the calendar year and knowing how long. We've been through a lot of stuff but we are best friends and do lots of things together. We are blessed with 2 boys that are 24 and 22.
 
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