have a talk with him, and ask ALL the things he doesnt like, make a list. go to the code enforcement show them the list. make an appointment, when all 3 can be there. and have the code enforcement guy look at whats been happening. and see what he wants done. and live with what he says.
Crazy neighbor rant
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I am not sure if your neighbor is in Kuwait or in the US. If in the US, ask a lawyer to send him a letter telling him that it is your right to do whatever you want on your own property, and you suspect that he pulled your plant out and plant it with something else. If he didn't response and said he replace the plant, take out the stuff he placed down and put in what you originally had. If he claims responsibility, take him to small claim court to scare him from doing that again.
Do not do anything that you don't want a judge or police to know later. Going through a lawyer for a warning letter would only cost a hundred or two, well worth the money to fend off the bully.
Do not do anything that you don't want a judge or police to know later. Going through a lawyer for a warning letter would only cost a hundred or two, well worth the money to fend off the bully.
You certainly should document every thing he does or says.
Get a large notebook and start writing everything down. Don't slack off if things take a lull, only to pick up again.
BTDT with a co worker that enjoyed being a PIA.
Finally got him moved due to 'hostile work environment'.
Not an exact match, but you get the idea.
Get to know the city officials, policemen that patrol your area, get to know the rules and laws about what you can and can not do, etc...
Idiots like that tend to make up their own 'laws', that only exist in their heads.
Get a large notebook and start writing everything down. Don't slack off if things take a lull, only to pick up again.
BTDT with a co worker that enjoyed being a PIA.
Finally got him moved due to 'hostile work environment'.
Not an exact match, but you get the idea.
Get to know the city officials, policemen that patrol your area, get to know the rules and laws about what you can and can not do, etc...
Idiots like that tend to make up their own 'laws', that only exist in their heads.
There is a possibility that the water from you is indeed entering his house.
But that is HIS problem to fix, in my mind! HIS house is broken!
I would go back to your old ways. You tried, and this guy got worse! He would then be the one to initiate legal actions. A house that is so poorly built it lets water in? Doesn't sound like a case of you are at fault.
But that is HIS problem to fix, in my mind! HIS house is broken!
I would go back to your old ways. You tried, and this guy got worse! He would then be the one to initiate legal actions. A house that is so poorly built it lets water in? Doesn't sound like a case of you are at fault.
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Can you build a privacy fence?
"Good fences make good neighbors." Robert Frost Something to that I believe.
Can you build a privacy fence?
"Good fences make good neighbors." Robert Frost Something to that I believe.
"Residential neighborhood and not a garage"
Now that's funny. There are communities that have restrictions, but you would be told them before you moved in.
I really doubt a power washer, or watering your plants is a cause of his "wet basement." He needs foundation work. And that is *his* problem, not yours.
And unless he is paying the costs of running your vehicles, then what you own is not his concern.
I had the same problem with some retired bozo who didn't like the fact I bought a Z4. Until I got in his face.
To cut it short, the guy is harrassing you. What I would do is start filing complaints. It may have little effect at first, but if nothing else, he will be the first person they look at if say your plants disappear again. And just maybe, the cops will get tired of coming over and set him straight.
You'll probably need a restraining order in the end. Afterall, you have the right to live on your own property in peace. But not at the expense of living under your neighbor's thumb.
Now that's funny. There are communities that have restrictions, but you would be told them before you moved in.
I really doubt a power washer, or watering your plants is a cause of his "wet basement." He needs foundation work. And that is *his* problem, not yours.
And unless he is paying the costs of running your vehicles, then what you own is not his concern.
I had the same problem with some retired bozo who didn't like the fact I bought a Z4. Until I got in his face.
To cut it short, the guy is harrassing you. What I would do is start filing complaints. It may have little effect at first, but if nothing else, he will be the first person they look at if say your plants disappear again. And just maybe, the cops will get tired of coming over and set him straight.
You'll probably need a restraining order in the end. Afterall, you have the right to live on your own property in peace. But not at the expense of living under your neighbor's thumb.
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You went above what a decent person could be expected to do to accommodate him and it didn't work. Ignore him and do whatever you want, as long as it's legal. Communication would cease and he would not be allowed on my property the moment he complained about the dash work. A camera is a good idea since he's willing to enter and modify your property.
get 100 lbs of rock salt, cover his yard with it.
Don't overthink this thing. You know what being an good neighbor means, so be one. You don't need to react to every one of his complaints if they are not legitimate. Just calmly talk to him and let him know that you will make very effort to be considerate of him but that he cannot dictate how you lawfully use your own property.
I suspect you are somewhat afraid of this guy since you have already given in to what sound like unreasonable requests. Why have you given so much ground already? Does he have some history of violence or connection to a gang or something?
I suspect you are somewhat afraid of this guy since you have already given in to what sound like unreasonable requests. Why have you given so much ground already? Does he have some history of violence or connection to a gang or something?
Thanks for all the input! Wow, never thought there'd be such a rich range of excellent ideas!
Biggest problem I have is pressure from my family (namely parents), who are extremely careful about relations with all neighbors. The other problem is, the guy's wife is a close friend of my mother and my family consider them 'family friends'. The guy does have quite a few screws loose, so if his wife was to speak to him, saying there were complaints from the neighbors, she would get it bad as she is scared of him. There have been quite a few times where the police was over at their place for physical violence.
Considering I'm the sort of person who loses his temper so fast, I'm actually surprised how long I've kept up with this and I have been extremely tempted to get physical at certain times (physically better built than he is). Respect and him being almost as old as my father aside, the problem with that is by law, the person who initiates the violence is the one that is arrested and charged. Although I quite like the idea of keeping a list and installing cameras.
The time has come to get back to doing what I want and ignoring him entirely. I respected him this far, but it's not my fault that I have to suffer the consequences of his poorly built house.
Biggest problem I have is pressure from my family (namely parents), who are extremely careful about relations with all neighbors. The other problem is, the guy's wife is a close friend of my mother and my family consider them 'family friends'. The guy does have quite a few screws loose, so if his wife was to speak to him, saying there were complaints from the neighbors, she would get it bad as she is scared of him. There have been quite a few times where the police was over at their place for physical violence.
Considering I'm the sort of person who loses his temper so fast, I'm actually surprised how long I've kept up with this and I have been extremely tempted to get physical at certain times (physically better built than he is). Respect and him being almost as old as my father aside, the problem with that is by law, the person who initiates the violence is the one that is arrested and charged. Although I quite like the idea of keeping a list and installing cameras.
Originally Posted By: Volvo_ST1
I would consider a variation of the Yaris Maneuver as countermeasure.
What is the yaris maneuver?
As for the OP...Get a BIG MEAN dog with a leash just long enough to reach your property line. Then replant those flowers and bring back the bird house. Only feed the dog at night, and use raw meat.
Then get an innertube, some pool shorts, a pair of sunglasses, and a beer. Park yourself on the tube in the middle of the driveway and let the water run all around you. When the crazy guy comes out to complain, tell him your relaxing in your pool. Make sure the dog is right there with you barking its [censored] off.
If that doesn't work, shoot the [censored].
In all seriousness, appeasement doesn't work with bullies. If he's unwilling to compromise, then you'll need to remind him that its your property and your prerogative. If he wants to escalate things, setup a camera and report the mofo if he messes with your poperty.
I would consider a variation of the Yaris Maneuver as countermeasure.
What is the yaris maneuver?
As for the OP...Get a BIG MEAN dog with a leash just long enough to reach your property line. Then replant those flowers and bring back the bird house. Only feed the dog at night, and use raw meat.
Then get an innertube, some pool shorts, a pair of sunglasses, and a beer. Park yourself on the tube in the middle of the driveway and let the water run all around you. When the crazy guy comes out to complain, tell him your relaxing in your pool. Make sure the dog is right there with you barking its [censored] off.
If that doesn't work, shoot the [censored].
In all seriousness, appeasement doesn't work with bullies. If he's unwilling to compromise, then you'll need to remind him that its your property and your prerogative. If he wants to escalate things, setup a camera and report the mofo if he messes with your poperty.
yaris manuever = pee in cowl?
Originally Posted By: Rix
yaris manuever = pee in cowl?
Hey, save up your urine and then pour IT where it will run into his basement.
(BTW I know how you feel, I would like to tell some people off but my wife always wants to get along with everyone.)
John
yaris manuever = pee in cowl?
Hey, save up your urine and then pour IT where it will run into his basement.
(BTW I know how you feel, I would like to tell some people off but my wife always wants to get along with everyone.)
John
I live in a condo with 56 units..Some people are just plain nasty no matter how nice you are to them.
Originally Posted By: Falcon_LS
but it's not my fault that I have to suffer the consequences of his poorly built house.
Yes, it is *your* fault.
He claimed your actions caused harm.
You accepted said claim by changing your actions.
Hopefully that will stop now.
Sure, good relations with neighbors are welcome. But having to bend over and grease up isn't the way to get it.
but it's not my fault that I have to suffer the consequences of his poorly built house.
Yes, it is *your* fault.
He claimed your actions caused harm.
You accepted said claim by changing your actions.
Hopefully that will stop now.
Sure, good relations with neighbors are welcome. But having to bend over and grease up isn't the way to get it.
Sounds like a real winner of a neighbor.
My solution? Bury your hose about a foot underground and get it as close to his house and as far away from your house as you can. Disguise your digging with planting some flowers or plants over the turned-up soil. Now that you've got your hose buried, turn it on. And leave it on. Your neighbor should have a flood after a few days and he'll have no clue where it's coming from. He'll be so busy trying to clean up his rising tide that he won't have the time to come out and bother you.
My solution? Bury your hose about a foot underground and get it as close to his house and as far away from your house as you can. Disguise your digging with planting some flowers or plants over the turned-up soil. Now that you've got your hose buried, turn it on. And leave it on. Your neighbor should have a flood after a few days and he'll have no clue where it's coming from. He'll be so busy trying to clean up his rising tide that he won't have the time to come out and bother you.
When I was visiting my Grandfather in Syria back in the day he had a neighbor much like yours. They had a baranda(porch) and it had a drain. They finished mopping and I was told to "dump" the bucket. No balcony/porch below us so I thought ok, i'd use the drain. Evidentally the drain flowed 3/4's across the building to a floor lower than ours and leaked into their living room. Man were they nasty. They couldn't understand that its NOT the fault of the tenant, but the landlord.
In your case, I know from personal experience and dealing with my type of people. You need to be firm and keep doing what your doing. He is only badgering you because he saw that you kept "giving" way to his pressure.
Resume what you are doing. So long as what you are doing is not against policy for the complex and town there is nothing he can do. In fact, you can literally shut him up by doing the reverse on him. Be firm, and be cool. Let him look like the idiot to your neighbors with his yelling and whining.
The basement flooding isn't your problem. He is to cheap to fix it, or to stupid to complain to the builder. if it's an older building then he is SOL and should stop being a baby and pony up the dough. I know for a fact that they are resourceful if they can't afford to fix a problem properly(I should know).
[censored] a family friend who lived in Jordan told me stories about how they were so poor to properly replace a head gasket in their car, they took cardboard and cut them doubled up and used them. It didn't last long and eventually caused more harm then good. I am sure he can come up with a similarly poor design.
And I seriously DOUBT that your water habits can contribute enough to the over saturation of the ground that leads to water intrusion. Your in the middle of a desert. Water wouldn't linger around long enough for it to do enough damage let alone fully seep through.
Adding one more thing.
If it comes down to it, give me his contact info, I'll show him whats up.
In your case, I know from personal experience and dealing with my type of people. You need to be firm and keep doing what your doing. He is only badgering you because he saw that you kept "giving" way to his pressure.
Resume what you are doing. So long as what you are doing is not against policy for the complex and town there is nothing he can do. In fact, you can literally shut him up by doing the reverse on him. Be firm, and be cool. Let him look like the idiot to your neighbors with his yelling and whining.
The basement flooding isn't your problem. He is to cheap to fix it, or to stupid to complain to the builder. if it's an older building then he is SOL and should stop being a baby and pony up the dough. I know for a fact that they are resourceful if they can't afford to fix a problem properly(I should know).
[censored] a family friend who lived in Jordan told me stories about how they were so poor to properly replace a head gasket in their car, they took cardboard and cut them doubled up and used them. It didn't last long and eventually caused more harm then good. I am sure he can come up with a similarly poor design.
And I seriously DOUBT that your water habits can contribute enough to the over saturation of the ground that leads to water intrusion. Your in the middle of a desert. Water wouldn't linger around long enough for it to do enough damage let alone fully seep through.
Adding one more thing.
If it comes down to it, give me his contact info, I'll show him whats up.
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