I like many of you are a bachelor. 42, never married, no kids. Sure I've been in many relationships but never walked down the aisle. Now understand I don't have anything against marriage or its institutions. I simply have not felt that type of desire to take those steps or embark on that kind of life. I get scorned by some for it. Sexuality questioned for it. Envied by friends and coworkers for it as well.
I find that the freedom I enjoy is rather liberating and having a disciplined, yet unrestricted lifestyle is tremendous to my own personal happiness.
I've had several long term relationships that ran their course. And moved on. No hard feelings. I still am in touch with several of them.
But I found something out in my mid to late 30's..........those women that wouldn't give me the time of day in my early to mid 20's are now desiring my company more then ever. I guess those early years of them getting all dolled up and going out to the clubs and bars in their search to nab that "hot" guy didn't go quite as planned. Many landed what they thought were the studs of their day, only to be seriously let down upon realizing that he couldn't hold a job or the eye of another was caught by him. As the years have passed they all separated, got divorced or ran out on. Maybe its a Gen-X thing. I don't know.
Now on another note, there are also many that are still in happy and successful marriages. My life long friend is one of them.
I've also found out that this crazy thing called Facebook had brought out the "frisky" and "flirty" behavior of many in my age group. Upon joining FB in its early years I found that many women I went to college with and High School with would chat me up more than usual once they found out about my marital status. Or what my "baggage" status was. Mind you, about half of these women were/are married as well.
Those same women that wouldn't give me the time of day were now asking me to lunch, coffee, dinner, etc... Needless to say it was quite a surprise. But I realized that the tables had turned. Many of lifes hard realities had hit them hard and brought them down a few notches. You may ask yourself if I had taken advantage of this new found asset. The answer is yes, and no.
I love the company of women but I have to draw the line on some things. Single, divorced, separated women are a go. Married and living with their spouse is a no. Regardless of how miserable they are. But believe me, I have been very tempted.
But back to being a bachelor. Its not always easy. There are lonely moments, some regrets and holidays are a b!tch some years. But at this point in life I still have not had that desire to settle down. Someday I may regret it, but better to be alone and happy than with someone and miserable.
Discuss....................
I find that the freedom I enjoy is rather liberating and having a disciplined, yet unrestricted lifestyle is tremendous to my own personal happiness.
I've had several long term relationships that ran their course. And moved on. No hard feelings. I still am in touch with several of them.
But I found something out in my mid to late 30's..........those women that wouldn't give me the time of day in my early to mid 20's are now desiring my company more then ever. I guess those early years of them getting all dolled up and going out to the clubs and bars in their search to nab that "hot" guy didn't go quite as planned. Many landed what they thought were the studs of their day, only to be seriously let down upon realizing that he couldn't hold a job or the eye of another was caught by him. As the years have passed they all separated, got divorced or ran out on. Maybe its a Gen-X thing. I don't know.
Now on another note, there are also many that are still in happy and successful marriages. My life long friend is one of them.
I've also found out that this crazy thing called Facebook had brought out the "frisky" and "flirty" behavior of many in my age group. Upon joining FB in its early years I found that many women I went to college with and High School with would chat me up more than usual once they found out about my marital status. Or what my "baggage" status was. Mind you, about half of these women were/are married as well.
Those same women that wouldn't give me the time of day were now asking me to lunch, coffee, dinner, etc... Needless to say it was quite a surprise. But I realized that the tables had turned. Many of lifes hard realities had hit them hard and brought them down a few notches. You may ask yourself if I had taken advantage of this new found asset. The answer is yes, and no.
I love the company of women but I have to draw the line on some things. Single, divorced, separated women are a go. Married and living with their spouse is a no. Regardless of how miserable they are. But believe me, I have been very tempted.
But back to being a bachelor. Its not always easy. There are lonely moments, some regrets and holidays are a b!tch some years. But at this point in life I still have not had that desire to settle down. Someday I may regret it, but better to be alone and happy than with someone and miserable.
Discuss....................
