Originally Posted By: GMFan
I just turned 26 years old and I am single. Sure I casually date sometimes but I'm cautious about relationships...VERY cautious and for good reason. Why enter one unless I absolutely want to? In my experience once I enter into a relationship everything goes downhill. I've had long term girlfriends in the past. However I am not even sure I want to ever get married. Perhaps I meet the right girl down the road and I want to marry...but even then I like my freedom and living to my own goals. When did the world decide that was selfish?
I tell my family all the time that I'm happy being single and I put no pressure on myself about this stuff. However some of the family (grandparents especially) always seem to need to have "talks" with me about my "condition" of single-hood. What gives...I want to tell them to lay off. I know they care about me and love me but no matter what I tell them they always assume I'm some miserable single man. My older siblings have married off and now they have moved onto the next patient...me
Am I alone in this?
Been there my friend. I am now 45 and still single( THANK GOD! ).
Luckily people have finally realized I just do not want to get married EVER! In my 20's and even 30's though the female members of my family and some friends were relentless. My Mother and Aunt( Mother's side )were especially bad. Got to the point it literally made me angry they wouldn't lay off which lead to a couple big blow ups about it.
Got to say I don't see why any man wants to get married these days though? That isn't a slam against marriage either. I am not against it even though it is not for me. I am talking about the huge risk men take getting married or even living together for any period of time. You put your financial future at risk and even your physical future( jail )by getting married. Some may think I am crazy, and that is ok, but after what I have seen in the last 10 years, and especially with a friend over the last 3, if a woman ever mentioned marriage to me I would run as far away from her, screaming, as fast as I could.
The relationship laws are so bias in favor of the women in this country it is not funny. The man can be the best husband that has ever lived and it won't matter. The courts will award the women everything( kids, money, property, etc... )and if you don't or can't pay they will take it or throw you in jail. Every lie and dirty trick imaginable will be used against you and the court will go along with it all blindly as well. You don't even have to be married as common law and palimony can still get you if you lived together for long enough.
One of my very best friends from childhood is currently gone and I don't even know where? Haven't seen him or heard from him in a year and may never again.
All I know is he was forced to flee to save himself from the biased divorce system in this country. His evil, lying, gold digging wife took him to the cleaners and then some. Just no way to pay what the biased, corrupt, divorce system says he had to or go to jail for a LONG time. The amounts were adding up so fast and went so high there was no way he could ever pay them, or even got caught up, after he was drained by the legal battle and she got all the rest.
His ex used everything from bogus restraining orders SHE purposely caused him to violate so she could have him arrested( so she could use that against him - Judge fell for it again and again even with video evidence SHE caused it )to outright lies in court( proved to be lies AGAIN - Judge didn't care AGAIN ). He never abused her or the kids and was a model husband while she cheated( was proved )and was abusive both physically and mentally to him and the kids. She got EVERYTHING though.
I am sorry for the rant but any young man even thinking about getting married better be darn sure before doing it. I am not saying all women are evil but there are a lot of gold diggers out there. If a woman decides she doesn't want to be married to you anymore she can get anything she wants with the courts help regardless if you were a good husband or not. The laws are so tipped in favor of the women it is scary. You will lose it all and be paying her forever.
If you can't, or won't, pay the outrageous amounts of money the court says you will have to pay, and do so in the very short time they will give you( lump sums in just days even if you just hear about the amount and don't have it ), be prepared to spend a lot of time in jail. Be prepared for bogus claims of abuse and/or restraining orders that she will make sure you break to use against you that will result in a criminal record that will further screw you over the rest of your life.
I have seen all the above in cases other then the mentioned friend as well. He is just the most recent. I have seen exactly 2 amicable divorces. Other than that the guy is screwed royally. No way I would ever get married in today's world. Just wouldn't risk it. Not even if the woman signed rights away and signed a pre-nuptial. The courts ignore all that and it means NOTHING. Signed forms will not save you from the [censored] that is divorce for a man in the USA.
DON'T DO IT! RUN AWAY!
