Why don't you have them over instead?
My sisters eat like their rich, I dont want to
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It's definitely UNusual for family to expect relatives who THEY have asked over to dinner at their home to pay for meals. If this is on an occasional basis, not including say if you are over there every week or more.
Carnoobie is a Canuck so being non-confrontational is the order of the day.
However, this is clearly a time to politely chat with them. They are your direct family and I'm sure they would be happy to compromise with the choices they make when family is invited over for a meal.
Carnoobie is a Canuck so being non-confrontational is the order of the day.
However, this is clearly a time to politely chat with them. They are your direct family and I'm sure they would be happy to compromise with the choices they make when family is invited over for a meal.
Here is the thing. If she expect you to pay then you should either tell her you don't want to come, or you will only eat the cheap stuff so don't split the $60 cake with you, or make it a pot luck so everyone bring what he or she can afford. It is bad to build up tension due to money when the point of a gathering is to strengthen the bond.
Regarding to what she want to eat, it is really her business as long as she didn't ask you to pay. I am sure I feel the same when I spend $20 on sushi and still feel hungry, and other will feel the same when they saw me wasting $20 eating dim sum instead of 5 Big Mac with fries.
Regarding to what she want to eat, it is really her business as long as she didn't ask you to pay. I am sure I feel the same when I spend $20 on sushi and still feel hungry, and other will feel the same when they saw me wasting $20 eating dim sum instead of 5 Big Mac with fries.
Originally Posted By: Carnoobie
The food is good but im just not a fan of wasting money on overpriced food just cause they came from some high end bakery or meat market. Just not my taste. I like good foods, but to me theres a limit and I think last night we past it.
They're nutty!
For the $45, you could have had the whole deal at the Keg, all the way from appetizer to Billy Miner pie, and no one accuses the Keg of being cheap.
The food is good but im just not a fan of wasting money on overpriced food just cause they came from some high end bakery or meat market. Just not my taste. I like good foods, but to me theres a limit and I think last night we past it.
They're nutty!
For the $45, you could have had the whole deal at the Keg, all the way from appetizer to Billy Miner pie, and no one accuses the Keg of being cheap.
Originally Posted By: 01rangerxl
How much is all of this really costing them? $45 is a lot of money for one person to eat one meal, especially one cooked at home.
Honestly it seems odd to me to invite a family member to your house for dinner and expect them to pay. In my family bringing food is optional, and I doubt payment would even be accepted.
If they can't understand that you don't want to pay $45 for a single meal, and it will be an issue if you don't, THEY have issues. Nobody should hold something like that against a family member, that's ridiculous.
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How much is all of this really costing them? $45 is a lot of money for one person to eat one meal, especially one cooked at home.
Honestly it seems odd to me to invite a family member to your house for dinner and expect them to pay. In my family bringing food is optional, and I doubt payment would even be accepted.
If they can't understand that you don't want to pay $45 for a single meal, and it will be an issue if you don't, THEY have issues. Nobody should hold something like that against a family member, that's ridiculous.
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Has anyone noticed he said he bought a friend over? So it's not 45 for ONE person.
Originally Posted By: Firehawk409
Has anyone noticed he said he bought a friend over?
Where did he say that?
Has anyone noticed he said he bought a friend over?
Where did he say that?
I don't eat [censored] only real food. Either from a farm market, or Whole Foods is pretty good.
I refuse to even eat a piece of gum from Walmart.
I refuse to even eat a piece of gum from Walmart.
What other weird things do your sisters do? I doubt if what you describe is allthey do that is out of the ordinary.
Originally Posted By: Firehawk409
Has anyone noticed he said he bought a friend over? So it's not 45 for ONE person.
NO. he said " If I brought a friend alone" and i fairly sure "alone" was suppose to be along.
He was saying if he brought a friend along $45 would be fair.
Has anyone noticed he said he bought a friend over? So it's not 45 for ONE person.
NO. he said " If I brought a friend alone" and i fairly sure "alone" was suppose to be along.
He was saying if he brought a friend along $45 would be fair.
You can't be the only one who object to the high price of a dinner at your sister's house.
There should be no offense taken if you simply say I will spend 'X' amount only - it is my limit.
Same for the others.
There should be no offense taken if you simply say I will spend 'X' amount only - it is my limit.
Same for the others.
As for spending 60 bucks for a cake....a fool and their money are soon parted.
Organic food....in MY opinion..is no better then fresh food from a garden. As for Walmart, the food on their shelves is the same as Kroger or the Piggly Wiggly here in town. Just sells for less.
Organic food....in MY opinion..is no better then fresh food from a garden. As for Walmart, the food on their shelves is the same as Kroger or the Piggly Wiggly here in town. Just sells for less.
This ranks in the top 10 worthless posts on BITOG.
Originally Posted By: Pop_Rivit
It's their money and they can spend it however they please. If you don't like the food, simply don't eat it. If you're worried that not eating the food will cause conflict, then you need to grow a set and stand up for yourself.
If you need something to be concerned about you should find something that is actually worth getting your britches knotted up over.
Pop_Rivit is 100% right here. You allow your sisters to actually CHARGE you at a family gathering?? That's really lame of them....and also of YOU for putting up with it. You're Canadian somebody said.....and so you aren't supposed to be 'confrontational'? Please! How is that working for you friend? Good heavens man....act like you have at least a minor amount of testosterone in your blood, will ya? Or....it seems the females in your family are the ones that have it.
With females....including sisters...if you speak up for yourself and act like a man (while still being polite), you will gain some respect and carve out a little bit of a comfort zone for yourself instead of being hen-pecked to death. Geesh guy...I just don't get you.
It's their money and they can spend it however they please. If you don't like the food, simply don't eat it. If you're worried that not eating the food will cause conflict, then you need to grow a set and stand up for yourself.
If you need something to be concerned about you should find something that is actually worth getting your britches knotted up over.
Pop_Rivit is 100% right here. You allow your sisters to actually CHARGE you at a family gathering?? That's really lame of them....and also of YOU for putting up with it. You're Canadian somebody said.....and so you aren't supposed to be 'confrontational'? Please! How is that working for you friend? Good heavens man....act like you have at least a minor amount of testosterone in your blood, will ya? Or....it seems the females in your family are the ones that have it.
With females....including sisters...if you speak up for yourself and act like a man (while still being polite), you will gain some respect and carve out a little bit of a comfort zone for yourself instead of being hen-pecked to death. Geesh guy...I just don't get you.
They charge You? You gotta be joking! I'd stuff my pie hole and get the heck out of there. If they got offended thats their problem, they got 2 choices, #1 get over it, #2 stay offended. Neither is my problem.
jcwit, you took the words out of my mouth. But I would be a bit more rude than you. I would laugh at any family member that invited me to dinner and then expected me to pay for the food I ate. I am sorry even if a family member stays with me for a uninvited extended stay, I would not even dare to ask for food payment. Especially from a sibling.
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Maybe he offers to pay versus bringing something?
I think this is what I'd do in that sort of situation:
Show up at the next such get-together, but be sure to eat first. When food is served, don't eat anything. I don't mean just dinner, I mean everything. Drink nothing other than water and insist on tap water. Bottled water isn't subject to mandatory safety testing and who knows what harmful contaminants could be in that stuff?
If anyone asks why you aren't eating, insist that you seem to have some sort of gastro problem because you always get gas pains and a case of the runs after eating your sisters' cooking. Maybe you're just not used to such top quality fare. Somebody will ask.
After dinner when it's time to clean off the table be sure to count out your $45 dollar share. Count only once as it would be impolite to count twice.
I'm pretty sure that if you do this some other members of the family will feel a need to correct this situation in a quiet manner and without any direct confrontation.
Show up at the next such get-together, but be sure to eat first. When food is served, don't eat anything. I don't mean just dinner, I mean everything. Drink nothing other than water and insist on tap water. Bottled water isn't subject to mandatory safety testing and who knows what harmful contaminants could be in that stuff?
If anyone asks why you aren't eating, insist that you seem to have some sort of gastro problem because you always get gas pains and a case of the runs after eating your sisters' cooking. Maybe you're just not used to such top quality fare. Somebody will ask.
After dinner when it's time to clean off the table be sure to count out your $45 dollar share. Count only once as it would be impolite to count twice.
I'm pretty sure that if you do this some other members of the family will feel a need to correct this situation in a quiet manner and without any direct confrontation.
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