I guess I don’t really know where to begin, but I really feel as if I have lost my best friend. I’m going to give a little back story; it makes more sense that way IMO. I have known my friend Jim since I was in high school. My best friend in high school, Evan, went to church with his older brother and met Jim at his wedding. Evan, Jim and I are big computer nerds – Evan, Jim and I get along real well due to that common interest. Evan introduced me to my friend Jim and really we’ve been good if not best friends ever since. I have always hung out with him at least one day a week, usually Saturday or Sunday (we work opposing shifts throughout the week). We always had great times; we’d play video games, watch TV, mess around with computers, really anything. One of my favorite things we’d do were to hop in one of our cars, turn some Van Halen, Ozzy, Malmsteen, etc. up real high and take a half hour drive to the Reservation and get some gas – just a nice drive in the summer. Many times too, Evan, Jim, my GF and I would all hang out. We always had a great time. Any rate, as long as I’ve known Jim, he’s always lived with his Dad. He had talked about wanting his own place for quite some time. Fast forward to April 2013 – he had wanted to move out for some time, so he got an apartment. That place was OK but wasn’t the nicest. Around September 2013 I saw on Craigslist a mobile home for $4k, he looked at it, my GF went with him to check it out, and he bought it – nice place. All four of us helped him move in and it was really neat him having his own nice place. Jim was always sort of shy and wanted to meet someone, so we all encouraged him to try dating or something online. He met a few girls online, but nothing serious came up until this past December. He had been with this girl for 6 months now. We first met her and she is nice, but I don’t know if that’s face value or truth, I have a feeling the first. So after a couple of months went by, the situation is where it stands today. I never see my friend, lucky to hear from him via text occasionally. I miss him terribly. I always ask if he’ll be around and the answer is no. I guess I’m bothered a bit that he always has his time planned for him even though he sees her ever morning/night and he’s OK with that. I sat down and had a one on one about this all and completely spilled all of the beans on how I felt and I got a blank stare and no emotion or response. The only response I got was “I try to make time for everyone and I hardly see my family so we’ll just have to plan things”. I don’t hate planning things but it just never happens. It’s funny too, because every other day he’ll either take his sister or mom out to lunch and then is usually seeing his GF everyday but he can’t make any time for what I thought was his friend. He is also doing the same to Evan, but I don’t know if it bothers him as much because his time is normally occupied by his daughter. Jim’s GF sounds like an odd character too. She hates ketchup (Jim is a ketchup freak) and gets disgusted/mad when it’s eaten. He gets ticked that he is dragged to so many family outings of hers, yet he goes. I can only speculate, but from what I gather, he has no say and is very obedient. I learned today that she is moving in with him. I hope this doesn’t sound weird; it’s just very upsetting as I’m really thinking I’ve lost my best friend. Jim was the kind of person who I would trust with anything, I thought he’d be the kind of friend who’s always there. I’ve tried a lot to be flexible to try and find time to get together, but no luck. I try not to interfere and understand a new relationship and all the stuff that goes with that, but not even one day out of the month? I guess I’m just bummed. We had really great times together, and it's as if that means nothing. He was the brother I never had. Just the way it’s going and has been since December really makes me think nothing will change. I feel partially stupid for opening up so much but to receive no response to anything. I think it’s hard sometimes for guys to create a new close friendship like this. I am very happy for him to have found someone he's fond of, and I've said this a bunch of times. But I'm not happy to be completely cut out. I just don't see how knowing someone for 8 years is meaningless with someone you've known for 6 months. Even if this all changes, I don't know how I'd feel. What's to say it won't happen again. It's tough. At the very least, and I’m not saying this in a “last resort” kind of way at all, my very loyal, caring and loving GF of 6 years, Jess, is always there for me.