If you have a best friend enjoy your time with them before you lose them.

[RazorsEdge]

For the smallest reason in the world, my best friend in the world of 8 years has walked out of my life. She and I have been through so much with doing home projects together,trail walks with the dogs,and the list goes on and on. We had a small misunderstanding last Saturday when we were going to power-wash a building for paint prepping.

The hard part is, she tells me that she needs time to get her emotions in check. The facts are, that there are no promises in this world. If she decides to never speak with me again, I'll have a part of me missing probably the rest of my life.

This isn't about the death of a friend,but hurts none the less. She has a Boxer dog named Callie that I might not see again which also kills me inside.

People, keep your friends close because no matter if it's death or a simple misunderstanding and nobody is interested in just simply having a conversation to resolve it hurts not having them around

 

[joekingcorvette]

Sorry to hear of this. Reach out and try to work things out with her or maybe drop off some flowers.

 

[Cujet]

For the smallest reason in the world, my best friend in the world of 8 years has walked out of my life.

Thoughts:
1) There are other reasons you are unaware of. This is not new or sudden, despite how it might seem.
2) Don't be fooled twice. If this happens once, it will happen again (100% chance) with dire consequences
3) Older men understand the dynamics. Listen to good advice, no matter how difficult
4) She did you a huge favor

 

[cptbarkey]

The small mis-understanding probably had quite a bit of underlying reasons. Now is a good time to think about that.

 

[SaberOne]

I’m in the fourth quarter of life, and I’ve watched lifelong relationships crumble over things as trivial as a misunderstanding at a family barbecue, or a fleeting grudge about a chipped tooth from six decades ago. 🫩

 

[k1xv]

At age 78, I have made, and lost, a lot of friends of both sexes.

A best friend from high school was a suicide at age 35. Another best friend, 14 years my junior, suddenly died of a heart attack at age 58. Yet another friend, so close I was his daughter's Godfather, just passed of pancreatic cancer. I feel I am playing musical chairs in a game run by the Grim Reaper, and my friends keep retiring from the game when they cannot find a chair of life.

I recently Googled other high school friends. Most came up as obituaries.

Same for some old girlfriends. And I lost my wife of 45 years to cancer in Sept 2023. And the God daughter to cancer the same month. She was only 41.

Many years ago, I parted with several girlfriends. Mostly because of geographic distance that neither of us were able or willing to overcome.

 

[paulswagelock]

Agree with others. Sometimes, with women, the disagreement or argument is not about the topic at hand, that is just the catalyst for the emotion and outbreak. Time to be introspective and try to understand what is really going on.
My wife is never really mad at me that I left the cap open on the toothpaste……

 

[RazorsEdge]

I really appreciate the input and experiences with this. There's two sides of every story. What I can tell you is, there was never,ever a time where I wasn't there for her during a time of need. Including the time when she had a very severe eye infection,where she almost went blind. I never used sex, money nor any other ways of pressure. I did everything from the heart and my two hands.

I'm slowly moving away from the situation. Emotionally, she'll always has a place in my heart that I will never forget. But life is too short for heartache so I choose to walk away.

I thought to myself last night while I was at the gym. Whomever in her life that chooses to be there when she is in need,no matter what, they'll never be there like I was. Right now, I wish I could given Callie, the boxer dog the biggest hug in the world as I never had a chance to say goodbye.

 

[97prizm]

For the smallest reason in the world, my best friend in the world of 8 years has walked out of my life. She and I have been through so much with doing home projects together,trail walks with the dogs,and the list goes on and on. We had a small misunderstanding last Saturday when we were going to power-wash a building for paint prepping.

The hard part is, she tells me that she needs time to get her emotions in check. The facts are, that there are no promises in this world. If she decides to never speak with me again, I'll have a part of me missing probably the rest of my life.

This isn't about the death of a friend,but hurts none the less. She has a Boxer dog named Callie that I might not see again which also kills me inside.

People, keep your friends close because no matter if it's death or a simple misunderstanding and nobody is interested in just simply having a conversation to resolve it hurts not having them around

I hear you. A friend of mine that Ive known since 7th grade really changed after his dad died in 2022. He moved in with some other friend drinks like he's a jr in college. Myself and a couple of other friends rarely hear from him.

 

[RazorsEdge]

I hear you. A friend of mine that Ive known since 7th grade really changed after his dad died in 2022. He moved in with some other friend drinks like he's a jr in college. Myself and a couple of other friends rarely hear from him.

Drinking will catch up with him unfortunately. I socially drank with co- workers in my 20-30's in small amounts.Now I don't touch pop or alcohol. I watched my favorite aunt drink herself to death to her early 30's.

 

[97prizm]

Drinking will catch up with him unfortunately. I socially drank with co- workers in my 20-30's in small amounts.Now I don't touch pop or alcohol. I watched my favorite aunt drink herself to death to her early 30's.

Then add in my friend isn't really the "dad" type yet keeps dating ladies that have kids.

 

[RazorsEdge]

Then add in my friend isn't really the "dad" type yet keeps dating ladies that have kids.

All you can do is stay on the sidelines and watch the results of it all. Kid's need someone strong to look up to in a father figure.

I got along very well with my friend's daughter and two teenage grandkids. One of them wanted me to attend her graduation this month. Something else that was taken away from me.

 

[AutoMechanic]

I feel you. About three weeks ago on Easter Sunday I lost my best friend of 13 years. Him and his dad are a bit strange to say the least and they decided they didn’t want me in their life anymore since I won’t change my phone number once per year to be safe from hackers. I’m like what do you mean. I said I’ve only ever had one phone number and it’s staying the same forever. It’s my original one that everybody has and I would never change it. They are like you need to change it at least once per year minimum to prevent cyber attacks and to keep the government from watching you and we need you to do it at this very second if you plan on me being in your life anymore. I’m like what the actual heck has gotten into your guys heads. And that was it the texts went green from blue and their numbers changed and all their social media disappeared too. They are like if we see you in public we will talk and if you have a new number you can be back in our lives but we have to stay safe until then. I was like if your going to end a friendship over a dang phone number then we never were friends to start with. Since I met him in 2012 he has had in my contacts 41 phone numbers just belonging to him. It was super frustrating trying to keep up with him anyway because I swear every week he was changing his number.

Really it’s sad because now I don’t have many people in my life and he was my go everywhere and do everything with guy. The night he tried to do the worst to himself by taking a whole bottle of his medication I was the one who answered the phone at 3am when he called and I was the one who got in contact with his mom and the rescue squad and saved his life. I was the one who rescued him at his apartment when he drank the entire bottle of whiskey that day. He started liking me a little less last year when he became a heavy drinker because he is like your manipulative and try and tell me what to do. I’m like no I can’t stop you from doing anything I’m just trying to help you out by telling you it’s not good to drink all day everyday and all I told him I was like look man I can’t tell you what to do but I wouldn’t advise drinking 24/7. He was doing so good last year he got treatment for it but then he decided to go back to it.

I’ve had a very hard time coping with this and been going thru a lot lately that I could use a friend at my side but I don’t have many. The ones I do have are awesome but I can’t put them in the best friend category cause their lives are too busy to hang out all the time and they are in relationships with families of their own. I’ve been focusing on trying to find a relationship with a girl but I’ve had absolutely no luck either. I just want someone by my side who I can tell things too that I don’t want to tell anyone else about and just someone to do things with and I’m getting to the age now where I want to have a family of my own too.

I say cherish every memory with your best friend because they might not be there for you tomorrow. I never expected my friend to do what he did. Now I think about it and I’m like was he actually my friend. Cherish your memories.

 

[RazorsEdge]

I feel you. About three weeks ago on Easter Sunday I lost my best friend of 13 years. Him and his dad are a bit strange to say the least and they decided they didn’t want me in their life anymore since I won’t change my phone number once per year to be safe from hackers. I’m like what do you mean. I said I’ve only ever had one phone number and it’s staying the same forever. It’s my original one that everybody has and I would never change it. They are like you need to change it at least once per year minimum to prevent cyber attacks and to keep the government from watching you and we need you to do it at this very second if you plan on me being in your life anymore. I’m like what the actual heck has gotten into your guys heads. And that was it the texts went green from blue and their numbers changed and all their social media disappeared too. They are like if we see you in public we will talk and if you have a new number you can be back in our lives but we have to stay safe until then. I was like if your going to end a friendship over a dang phone number then we never were friends to start with. Since I met him in 2012 he has had in my contacts 41 phone numbers just belonging to him. It was super frustrating trying to keep up with him anyway because I swear every week he was changing his number.

Really it’s sad because now I don’t have many people in my life and he was my go everywhere and do everything with guy. The night he tried to do the worst to himself by taking a whole bottle of his medication I was the one who answered the phone at 3am when he called and I was the one who got in contact with his mom and the rescue squad and saved his life. I was the one who rescued him at his apartment when he drank the entire bottle of whiskey that day. He started liking me a little less last year when he became a heavy drinker because he is like your manipulative and try and tell me what to do. I’m like no I can’t stop you from doing anything I’m just trying to help you out by telling you it’s not good to drink all day everyday and all I told him I was like look man I can’t tell you what to do but I wouldn’t advise drinking 24/7. He was doing so good last year he got treatment for it but then he decided to go back to it.

I’ve had a very hard time coping with this and been going thru a lot lately that I could use a friend at my side but I don’t have many. The ones I do have are awesome but I can’t put them in the best friend category cause their lives are too busy to hang out all the time and they are in relationships with families of their own. I’ve been focusing on trying to find a relationship with a girl but I’ve had absolutely no luck either. I just want someone by my side who I can tell things too that I don’t want to tell anyone else about and just someone to do things with and I’m getting to the age now where I want to have a family of my own too.

I say cherish every memory with your best friend because they might not be there for you tomorrow. I never expected my friend to do what he did. Now I think about it and I’m like was he actually my friend. Cherish your memories.

Yes I am in a small circle of people in my life as well. I've got a younger brother who walked out of everyone's life and another brother in Florida. My mother is 76 years old and I think about it a lot to enjoy the time I have with her because she's the only parent I have left.

 

[StarCaller]

It really sucks about the dog; that kind of bond is hard to lose /
But honestly, if someone walks away over something small and doesn’t even want to talk it out, then maybe it’s time to move on /
She had her chance /

 

[RazorsEdge]

It really sucks about the dog; that kind of bond is hard to lose /
But honestly, if someone walks away over something small and doesn’t even want to talk it out, then maybe it’s time to move on /
She had her chance /

Thanks man, I appreciate it

Callie ( boxer ) would always sit down in front of me while I was sitting and wait for me to peek over. She'd jump up immediately trying to lick my face! She's a clown, will miss her badly.

 

[wavinwayne]

Every "best friend" I ever had is now either distant or departed. The older I've gotten the more I'm OK with not having close friends. I have one former co-worker where he and I followed each other to/from several jobs over the last 20 years that I meet up with several times a year for lunch but that's it.

 

[RazorsEdge]

Every "best friend" I ever had is now either distant or departed. The older I've gotten the more I'm OK with not having close friends. I have one former co-worker where he and I followed each other to/from several jobs over the last 20 years that I meet up with several times a year for lunch but that's it.

That's 20 years together

 

[scoot]

Can you get yourself a rescue dog or cat ? There are tons of them out there that need a home . They will love you , if you love them

 

[RazorsEdge]

I'm now officially in training.

Seriously, thank you all for sharing experiences and input,it's been a tough week.