I lost another friend. My message to all of you.

[fat biker]

Tough breaks slo town, very sorry.
Recently, managed to reconnect with old friends.
Google turned up a bad phone number and good physical address.
Penned a quick note, apologizing for having lost touch, asked if they were interested in reconnecting. Included my contact info.
Two weeks later, email, pick up the phone.
Man, feels great to be back in touch.
They are 350 miles down the coast from me, for sure I will visit.

 

[TimeFlies]

My parents died when I was a little kid, my grandparents raised me, also a special aunt and uncle. Since then i lost my grandpa, special uncle, a brother, some good friends, and my best friend's 1 brother died, and I'm only 29 years old .
Stuff happens fast, be kind to each other, quick to hug, slow to anger.

 

[doitmyself]

Late to the discussion. I keep in phone contact with about 20 people I care about, many just one time a year. And only about a half dozen of us visit on occasion. Some live hours apart.

People DO drift apart as their lives take new paths. Rekindling long lost acquaintances does make one feel good. BUT, I question whether harboring guilt feelings regarding unkempt contacts is healthy, or even natural (whatever that is defined as).

Change. It's tough not to engage in it. I think it might be better to accept drifting apart as inevitable change. Be mindful about living in the present day, but don't torture oneself because of change. It is what it is. Accept it. Few regrets. Have balance regarding OP Scott's excellent message. It helps me live less toxic. This, from a guy that tends to beat himself up.

 

[Number_35]

Have balance regarding OP Scott's excellent message. It helps me live less toxic. This, from a guy that tends to beat himself up.

I think a lot of us beat ourselves up. You're not alone.

 

[slo town]

I hesitate to add this, but I just lost another close friend. Keith. He died on January 11th of cancer.

Keith and I joined the same Silicon Valley startup in 1980. We've been friends ever since. He is a huge loss for both Sue and me. The great times we had together will never be forgotten.

Two pictures that show the span of our long friendship. Reaching the age when your friends start to "age out" isn't fun.

Scott

 

[alarmguy]

I hesitate to add this, but I just lost another close friend. Keith. He died on January 11th of cancer.

Keith and I joined the same Silicon Valley startup in 1980. We've been friends ever since. He is a huge loss for both Sue and me. The great times we had together will never be forgotten.

Two pictures that show the span of our long friendship. Reaching the age when your friends start to "age out" isn't fun.

Scott

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Sorry to hear of your friend.
Cancer sucks and the treatment brutal. Worth it if you survive and brutal if you don’t. Assuming the side effects of surviving don’t rob you of a decent quality of life.

Just a miserable insidious disease.