Help with my girlfriends ex

[OtisBlkR1]

OP: i read half this thread, and decided to chime in. If the EX has not initiated any form of contact with you ? with your girl, made a threat, you have not seen him.. all your going on is a Rumor.. be prepaired (as you always should be).. case closed pending more details or events.

 

[Jeff_in_VABch]

Rtstrider:

That's a nightmare scenario you have. It sounds like it is being handled as well as possible. I would keep good records and meet with a family attorney occasionally to document and for an unbiased opinion.

In a case where kids are involved, you have to kill the [censored] with kindness instead of a tire iron. It will eventually work out.

 

[andrewg]

What a drama. You know, it's really up to this girl to handle her ex....not you. The issues stem from her past, not yours. If there actually IS a problem with this guy then SHE needs to take care of it (legally if possible) before she puts herself out there in the dating market. You should not have to be a rescuer for an adult female my friend.....or you will be bound to that role for the term of the relationship. Trust me, that's no fun and not healthy for you OR her. All this idiotic talk of fighting him or threatening the guy is a path you really don't want to go down. Sure, be on the alert, but is this how you want to live your life? I would let her know that if he is actually following you folks then SHE needs to handle it or you will simply take a walk. You really don't need this, do you? With all the thousands of gals out there....no matter how long you've been dating this one....I would strongly urge her to fix this nuisance (if there actually is one) or you will either move on for good or at least stop seeing each other for a while until it is resolved.