Very strained childhood. Father was a fall-down drunk and dead by 47. Mother is a malignant narcissist and we have a very strained relationship. Sister who was more like a mother to me dead by 44. Knew 8 children who died in Sandy Hook. Wife at 47 is already a breast cancer survivor. I don't believe in God or heaven and so I don't see this life as some sort of test to get to the good place. Maybe that exists and maybe it does not but I KNOW this exists and in my mind and I'm not wasting my time here worrying about things I can't control or things that really do not matter.
I have bills and work-related stress and family-related stress like everyone else and there are certainly a lot of ugly things and people in the world and yet I am happy, content, and satisfied. I used to not be happy and I used to be a stress case. As I've gotten older I've learned to not sweat the small stuff, choose to see and acknowledge the good and beauty in the world, and yes, CHOOSE to be happy. I choose to not give anyone else the power to make me unhappy. I let go of the bad stuff - water off a duck's back.
I work, I love, I read, I think about things that are interesting to me, I've gone back to school, my professional life is going well, my wife and kids are happy and healthy, and it could all go away tomorrow - so I'm not going to waste today!
I have bills and work-related stress and family-related stress like everyone else and there are certainly a lot of ugly things and people in the world and yet I am happy, content, and satisfied. I used to not be happy and I used to be a stress case. As I've gotten older I've learned to not sweat the small stuff, choose to see and acknowledge the good and beauty in the world, and yes, CHOOSE to be happy. I choose to not give anyone else the power to make me unhappy. I let go of the bad stuff - water off a duck's back.
I work, I love, I read, I think about things that are interesting to me, I've gone back to school, my professional life is going well, my wife and kids are happy and healthy, and it could all go away tomorrow - so I'm not going to waste today!
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