I spent the early part of my career being micromanaged. Example, I had perfect attendance for 6+ years from age 22. I asked my boss for PTO in the 90’s. He said what for? I said to get Grateful Dead tix. He said that’s not an acceptable reason to use PTO. Not making it up. This was the early 90’s.
At any rate my buddy said something to me maybe 4 years ago that made sense. He said better to ask for forgiveness, than permission. It was really difficult to unlearn always checking in and letting my bosses know where I am. Especially 2015-2019 when I was on the road maybe 50%. That’s gone now people miss their own meetings no explanation. Strange corp environments….
Boss is a jerk not allowing you to take PTO.
When I was younger I put in PTO and boss ignored it. I called in sick and next day I show up with sunburn from going to air show and skipping work.
My life doesn’t revolve around my job.