There is nothing wrong with 20 weight oil.
I personal view 20 weight oil as adequate protection.
I own 3 Honda Odysseys with the 3.5L V-6 with VCM enabled.
I prefer to only use 5W-30 in them for the added HTHS protection, for when the van is fully loaded with 8 people + luggage going on cross country trips that include going up mountain inclines with the Air Cond on and with engine temperatures rising.
Also, if you had a cooling system issue and engine was running hotter than usual, a higher HTHS oil will provide better protection in that scenario.
I believe 5W-30 is neither thick or thin, but simply the optimal viscosity that most cars should have been speced for if CAFE fines to automakers by the US government didn't exist.