Something else to consider here, if we take the assumption that "the engineers know best" as a truth...
The engineers know best, how the engine performs and what oils, etc.. work best with the engine -when it is new-
My 5-year-old Fusion is going to roll over the 200,000 mile mark today on my drive home from work. While I've paid close attention to it, and done everything I could to minimize wear in the engine, I'm pretty much certain that it doesn't look the same inside, or act the same, as it did when it was being assembled, or even rolling on to the dealership lot. A lot of things change over 5 years and 200k miles.
If the engineer came to my house this weekend and talked with me about the car, I'd wager that there are quite a few things about it that I would know and he does not.
Would I still trust his input? Yes.
Would I make some of my own decisions based on my experience with the car? Definitely.