wow! Even if I had felt similarly, I would have hold my tongue. And I feel lot of sympathy towards OP and I am a father of similarly aged sons and I can understand his rational for getting involved. What you said here only reflects on you and not on OP or his son :-(
Really? After all that chest thumping and angst you're going to let the most important item go unreturned? I guess. At least your man-boy can hang out in the barracks and play video games instead of working on accelerated promotions and advancing his professional career. You must feel comforted knowing he's preparing to go to the Sandbox by being glued to the television. Priorities at it's finest.