Long and could be considered tacky by some so I apologize. This whole thing is just jumbled thoughts mashed into one.
My neighbor recently passed away. He as well as his wife are like grandparents to my brother and I. My moms mother passed away when I was about 12 and that pretty much sums it up. By law they were our God parents too.
This is where it gets tacky. She lives in a 300 acre farm and has about 5 acres to mow around the house. I have always told her if she needs any help she can always call/ text me anytime. So far the yard was getting mowed just fine and I didn't even think about it, but a few days ago she asked my brother to mow it every 1.5 weeks or so.. Turns out the neighbor down the road was mowing with his tractor and fuel. While I find this very nice of it, I wonder why he can no longer mow it? Turns out, 2 of her 6 kids live somewhat locally and her one son literally lives 3 miles away. Why cant they help i wonder? As of now, the very local son even has her tractor because his is "broken." It is an old International B and she refuses to drive it. Her husband bought it back in the 70's and she refused to drive it then too. Lol. (I am glad she knows her limitations.)
So basically now all the burden has been pushed onto my brother and of course me with capable family living in the area.
The one son who I am very close with lives about an hr away. I am tempted to get a hold of him and say we all need to get together and just alternate weekends. Between the 5 of us (we could possibly get more.), we'd each only have to mow a few times a summer assuming everyone pulls their own weight. I have no issues with helping, but I feel the duties can (and should) be shared.
Just being devils advocate, the one son living an hr away is a bit of a stretch, but then again if I was in his shoes, I'd be helping my mom. The other local guy would be her SIL.. is it his responsibility to mow the yard? The local guy that lives 3 miles away just aggravates me. I cant think of an excuse. He works full time and his wife is a stay at home mom. He has her tractor and can't even mow the yard for her.
Am I rude for thinking this is wrong? I am not saying my brother and I are too busy to do this, but that is no excuse for the extended family either. We all work full time, have huge yards of our own, are busy etc.
Thanks for any and all input guys.
My neighbor recently passed away. He as well as his wife are like grandparents to my brother and I. My moms mother passed away when I was about 12 and that pretty much sums it up. By law they were our God parents too.
This is where it gets tacky. She lives in a 300 acre farm and has about 5 acres to mow around the house. I have always told her if she needs any help she can always call/ text me anytime. So far the yard was getting mowed just fine and I didn't even think about it, but a few days ago she asked my brother to mow it every 1.5 weeks or so.. Turns out the neighbor down the road was mowing with his tractor and fuel. While I find this very nice of it, I wonder why he can no longer mow it? Turns out, 2 of her 6 kids live somewhat locally and her one son literally lives 3 miles away. Why cant they help i wonder? As of now, the very local son even has her tractor because his is "broken." It is an old International B and she refuses to drive it. Her husband bought it back in the 70's and she refused to drive it then too. Lol. (I am glad she knows her limitations.)
So basically now all the burden has been pushed onto my brother and of course me with capable family living in the area.
The one son who I am very close with lives about an hr away. I am tempted to get a hold of him and say we all need to get together and just alternate weekends. Between the 5 of us (we could possibly get more.), we'd each only have to mow a few times a summer assuming everyone pulls their own weight. I have no issues with helping, but I feel the duties can (and should) be shared.
Just being devils advocate, the one son living an hr away is a bit of a stretch, but then again if I was in his shoes, I'd be helping my mom. The other local guy would be her SIL.. is it his responsibility to mow the yard? The local guy that lives 3 miles away just aggravates me. I cant think of an excuse. He works full time and his wife is a stay at home mom. He has her tractor and can't even mow the yard for her.
Am I rude for thinking this is wrong? I am not saying my brother and I are too busy to do this, but that is no excuse for the extended family either. We all work full time, have huge yards of our own, are busy etc.
Thanks for any and all input guys.
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