Originally Posted By: bigmike
Originally Posted By: OtisBlkR1
Originally Posted By: doitmyself
I find it rather odd that you don't seem to factor in the idea that you have a second child coming.
What are your plans regarding this?
im not sure i understand the question, I make enuff money and then some to support my family without my wife working.. My wifes only reason for going back to school is she doesnt like her current job (wants to do more with herself) and she wants to contribute more to the familys $.. i respect both of her reasons, I do not however respect throwing away money..
and for the record i asked my wife if a toddler and a new baby and work and school would be to much on her and she insisted she could handle the load... I brought this to her attention before anything else.
Then let it go. You make enough money to cover the bad decisions she made. Don't focus your attention on it! SHE has to learn this on her own and come to the conclusions you already came to. If you push it, she'll blame you and resentment will settle in.
I went through something similar with my wife about schooling. I had to bite my tongue a great many of times. I waited it out and she finally broke down one night and asked forgiveness, focused her energies, and will finish school next term with a 4 year degree and 2 minors. We did this on less than half of your salary and it was really tough!
Eljefino & Bigmike..
I think you have the best advice.. letting it go is probably the best way to go, although when this topic resurfaces again im going to have to find a way to gently address the commitment to school.
I appreciate everyones input on this topic.. I was pretty hot over it yesterday but came to this same conclusion myself last nite..
BITOG therapy helps again!
Originally Posted By: OtisBlkR1
Originally Posted By: doitmyself
I find it rather odd that you don't seem to factor in the idea that you have a second child coming.
What are your plans regarding this?
im not sure i understand the question, I make enuff money and then some to support my family without my wife working.. My wifes only reason for going back to school is she doesnt like her current job (wants to do more with herself) and she wants to contribute more to the familys $.. i respect both of her reasons, I do not however respect throwing away money..
and for the record i asked my wife if a toddler and a new baby and work and school would be to much on her and she insisted she could handle the load... I brought this to her attention before anything else.
Then let it go. You make enough money to cover the bad decisions she made. Don't focus your attention on it! SHE has to learn this on her own and come to the conclusions you already came to. If you push it, she'll blame you and resentment will settle in.
I went through something similar with my wife about schooling. I had to bite my tongue a great many of times. I waited it out and she finally broke down one night and asked forgiveness, focused her energies, and will finish school next term with a 4 year degree and 2 minors. We did this on less than half of your salary and it was really tough!
Eljefino & Bigmike..
I think you have the best advice.. letting it go is probably the best way to go, although when this topic resurfaces again im going to have to find a way to gently address the commitment to school.
I appreciate everyones input on this topic.. I was pretty hot over it yesterday but came to this same conclusion myself last nite..
BITOG therapy helps again!