We'd never consider a separate bed. I like the convenience of rolling over to tag it.
Plus, I guess I love her too and like to feel her there.
Plus, I guess I love her too and like to feel her there.
Married, sleeping in separate beds.
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My wife and I have only been married a little over 46 years, so maybe I am not qualified to comment. Sleeping together naked is part of marriage that neither of us ever want to end. It is about our connection awake and asleep. Marriage is about intimacy and by that I don't just mean sex, I mean joining your lives completely. That is why we are united in everything. Also, no separate checking accounts, all of our bank accounts are joint accounts, even my business accounts. Do we make separate decisions on occasion? Yes, but not on the big things. We only have 9 children, two of them adopted.
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I've done rotating 12hr shift work for 25yrs. Started a few years before were married. The bride and I basically never go to bed at the same time because of that and because my wife is a stay at home mom and rarely turns in before 1am. If I'm on day shift (4a-4p), I get up at 0245. Night shifts 4p-4a, I'm home and in bed just before 5am and I'm up by 11am-noon.
Much of the time when the kids were little, by wife would snuggle them to sleep and stay sleeping with them while I was at work. Now that they range from 10 to 19, not so much.
Much of the time when the kids were little, by wife would snuggle them to sleep and stay sleeping with them while I was at work. Now that they range from 10 to 19, not so much.
Whew, not too many stand up comedians in Utah
Like many here, wife and I have separate rooms. I snore and kick in my sleep to wake the dead, and isn’t fair to keep her up.
It also works well bc we now work different schedules; she works about 1-10pm, and I’m up at 5am to get ready and commute to work for 8am two cities over.
It also works well bc we now work different schedules; she works about 1-10pm, and I’m up at 5am to get ready and commute to work for 8am two cities over.
There is an old joke about a couple who had separate beds. Someone asked the husband how did they work it out. And he said most nights I throw my hat over to my wife's bed. Some nights she throws it back to me, and some nights she brings it back to me.
You my friend must sleep better than anybody else I know.
I am a heavy sleeper, and maybe wake up once or twice in the night...maybe. But to roll over, feel my bride beside me, smell her, and hold her close puts me right back to sleep.
My bride does travel for work, and when she is gone, if I do happen to wake up in the middle of the night, I wish she were there by my side.
Wife has lupus and has RLS sometimes so it's important that she gets a good nights sleep. Me waking up to relieve myself as I get older wasn't helping so I started sleeping on the couch in my man cave. Now I can't seem to fall asleep unless the TV is on, oh well.
Also some of you associate the bedroom with sex too much, we hardly ever make whoopee in the bedroom, may I suggest the washing machine on agitate!
Also some of you associate the bedroom with sex too much, we hardly ever make whoopee in the bedroom, may I suggest the washing machine on agitate!
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I remember Helen Hunt doing herself on the washer. Costar was Paul Reiser but can't remember the name of the show.
Roommates with PrivilegesI’m curious - I don’t want to offend anyone, but my wife and I have both known married couples (nearly always older folks) who did the separate room thing.
We’ve never understood it. We’ve always figured a married couple having separate rooms makes them just roommates.
As was mentioned "Your place or Mine"
As I read through all these posts I realize more and more that we'll never get separate beds/rooms. A squeeze or twelve on that tig ol' bitty is the only thing that brings peace to my heart and lets me fall asleep with a grin ear to ear. And when I work nightshifts and come home in the morning - she complains of not having a "stick shift" to play with in her sleep.
One little observation here - we know a couple that got married same time we did, and they're not as close with each other as us. Seems like their "honeymoon" phase ran out in 6-8 months, while ours keeps going for almost 4 years this month. They do sleep separately sometimes, for various reasons. So not claiming anything, could be just a coincidence, but worth noting.
One little observation here - we know a couple that got married same time we did, and they're not as close with each other as us. Seems like their "honeymoon" phase ran out in 6-8 months, while ours keeps going for almost 4 years this month. They do sleep separately sometimes, for various reasons. So not claiming anything, could be just a coincidence, but worth noting.
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My testosterone is so high that's it's out of control, my girlfriend is a Mexican nympho, so......yeah
......every chance and place we get
......every chance and place we get
Is 300ZX a two seater or 2+2? JW....My testosterone is so high that's it's out of control, my girlfriend is a Mexican nympho, so......yeah
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It's a two-seater. Good thing she's a size 0 and weights about 90 lbsIs 300ZX a two seater or 2+2? JW....
As said before, it is not just the sex, it is the closeness and intimacy of sleeping in the same room in the same bed.
Intimacy does not have to be or lead to sex.
While I can see some of the reasons here to be "valid" reasons, some of them are unhealthy, and some just sound like excuses.
Snoring so loud that is causes issues needs to be checked out for sleep apnea.
I know marriage is not always easy, and making adjustments is part of it, as well as sometimes being uncomfortable for others.
But I am not in others shoes, so what I say really does not matter (except the part about getting snoring checked out with a sleep study).
We're only a year into this(as of this past Monday) but I can't imagine not sleeping in the same bed. For me, there's a lot of just the being close to her and falling asleep/waking up next to her that I like(and she likes also). Of course usually we're separated by a 60lb dog, but he also knows that there are times he's not allowed in bed 
. I can be a bit of a night owl, but often when I get in bed an hour or two after she does, if she's awake or wakes up she'll grab my hand and hold on to it for a while(often until she's back asleep), or if I see her away I'll reach over and grab hers. I love little things like that. Maybe it will wear off, but I hope to goodness not...
Someone else mentioned separate blankets. That was one of the best decisions we could have made. Apparently my wife's parents have always done it, and we did from day one(at least at home). One of the things we find in hotels is that the same blanket just doesn't work too well. I'll often end up in the middle of the bed half uncovered and her wrapped up in them, and if I try to get more she'll wake up and complain about how she barely has any. I just concede her insistence that hotel blankets are too small and leave it at that(I miss hotels tucking a spare up in the closet...haven't seen that in a while).
We do use one sheet at home under two blankets, so we're not totally separated by separate blankets.
. I can be a bit of a night owl, but often when I get in bed an hour or two after she does, if she's awake or wakes up she'll grab my hand and hold on to it for a while(often until she's back asleep), or if I see her away I'll reach over and grab hers. I love little things like that. Maybe it will wear off, but I hope to goodness not...Someone else mentioned separate blankets. That was one of the best decisions we could have made. Apparently my wife's parents have always done it, and we did from day one(at least at home). One of the things we find in hotels is that the same blanket just doesn't work too well. I'll often end up in the middle of the bed half uncovered and her wrapped up in them, and if I try to get more she'll wake up and complain about how she barely has any. I just concede her insistence that hotel blankets are too small and leave it at that(I miss hotels tucking a spare up in the closet...haven't seen that in a while).
We do use one sheet at home under two blankets, so we're not totally separated by separate blankets.
got a night off to recover
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Her, you are both?
Whatever works. If you manage to actually stay married, I'd say it's a win vs. what most people end up doing.Anybody else, we sleep in separate rooms, I go to bed late and get up early, she turns in early and gets up late. Kids are gone and with 3 bedrooms we both like our space, she gets the full size bed and I get the Master King bed, works for us and besides she says I snore like a son of a gun.
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