manicrodder
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Ozzie and Harriet were the original trend setters.
Married, sleeping in separate beds.
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manicrodder
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I think the Cleavers too.
We’ve only been married for 17 mos, so obviously we still like sleeping in the same bed, but my mom’s parents had separate rooms. It was understandable with them, because their interests drifted apart over the years. Heck, they even had separate TVs in the den (he liked his nature shows and she liked wrestling, daytime TV, etc). He used headphones.
However, my dad’s folks always shared a bed. And stayed much closer over their marriage.
Both were married for >50 yrs.
My wife and I both always want to share a bed.
However, my dad’s folks always shared a bed. And stayed much closer over their marriage.
Both were married for >50 yrs.
My wife and I both always want to share a bed.
I have two friends that sleep in separate bedrooms from their wives.
One is because of a huge temperature difference. His wife likes the bedroom at 62°f or lower, leaving the window open in the middle of the winter.
The other is because of differences in working hours. His wife leaves for work at 3:15 AM, and he doesn't leave for work until 5:20 AM.
Both have good marriages. And the separate bedrooms help that.
One is because of a huge temperature difference. His wife likes the bedroom at 62°f or lower, leaving the window open in the middle of the winter.
The other is because of differences in working hours. His wife leaves for work at 3:15 AM, and he doesn't leave for work until 5:20 AM.
Both have good marriages. And the separate bedrooms help that.
Been married for 17 years and have slept in separate beds about half that time. We have very different work schedules and sleeping habits so it just works better for us. We are much happier when we can get a good night's sleep.
AZjeff
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Never would have guessed.
A year ago a mistake was made letting a nervous dog up on the bed in a weekend rental that continued back home, now we have a king mattress and it's almost like being in separate beds. With a dog in the middle.
A year ago a mistake was made letting a nervous dog up on the bed in a weekend rental that continued back home, now we have a king mattress and it's almost like being in separate beds. With a dog in the middle.
I’m curious - I don’t want to offend anyone, but my wife and I have both known married couples (nearly always older folks) who did the separate room thing.
We’ve never understood it. We’ve always figured a married couple having separate rooms makes them just roommates.
The reasons folks have listed here are logical, and make sense to me (different work schedules, severe snoring, differences in temperature preference, differences in sleep schedules), but how do you maintain passion in your marriage and keep that spark alive?
We’ve always figured sleeping in separate rooms is something we never want to do, and we’ll adapt to any situation such as those listed above. Heck, we already work different schedules (I’m 1545-0230 and she’s now 0830-1730).
We’ve never understood it. We’ve always figured a married couple having separate rooms makes them just roommates.
The reasons folks have listed here are logical, and make sense to me (different work schedules, severe snoring, differences in temperature preference, differences in sleep schedules), but how do you maintain passion in your marriage and keep that spark alive?
We’ve always figured sleeping in separate rooms is something we never want to do, and we’ll adapt to any situation such as those listed above. Heck, we already work different schedules (I’m 1545-0230 and she’s now 0830-1730).
I’m curious - I don’t want to offend anyone, but my wife and I have both known married couples (nearly always older folks) who did the separate room thing.
We’ve never understood it. We’ve always figured a married couple having separate rooms makes them just roommates.
The reasons folks have listed here are logical, and make sense to me (different work schedules, severe snoring, differences in temperature preference, differences in sleep schedules), but how do you maintain passion in your marriage and keep that spark alive?
We’ve always figured sleeping in separate rooms is something we never want to do, and we’ll adapt to any situation such as those listed above. Heck, we already work different schedules (I’m 1545-0230 and
My wife snores so loud it sounds like I'm sleeping next to a farm animal! That's much more of a mood killer than separate beds! 
Flip her over!My wife snores so loud it sounds like I'm sleeping next to a farm animal! That's much more of a mood killer than separate beds!
I've never been married, but in dating we never slept in separate rooms. This is despite sometimes vastly different schedules. We always enjoyed being in the same bed. I cannot fault others for different rooms, esp. if someone snores. I cannot sleep with a snoring person.... ugh. Up all night....
Edited for clarity: I did date a woman that snored, briefly. I had to sleep in the spare room. But that was a deal breaker.
Edited for clarity: I did date a woman that snored, briefly. I had to sleep in the spare room. But that was a deal breaker.
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MolaKule
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Until 20 years ago we shared the same bed but then she developed Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS) and sleep apnea.
There is no way one can sleep when you're getting kicked with repeated loud snorts.
So now its two separate bedrooms.
Same room, two beds, it's a big bedroom. I'm told I snore, I move around a lot, I'm restless because I have some sleep issues from nerve and bone pains in the night. The dog and 1 cat like to sleep with me.
Her, she does snore some when she does sleep, she has sleep issues also, and the worst part, she rolls up in the blankets, "Yup She is a Blanket Hog" That part was irritating. Oh, she sleeps diagonal not strait also probably why the blanket thing used to irritate me. So, we got it all figured out now...lol
Her, she does snore some when she does sleep, she has sleep issues also, and the worst part, she rolls up in the blankets, "Yup She is a Blanket Hog" That part was irritating. Oh, she sleeps diagonal not strait also probably why the blanket thing used to irritate me. So, we got it all figured out now...lol
We've slept in separate rooms for 13-14 years, married for 15. She gets kinda violent in her sleep.. kicking, arm swinging Anyways she's more of night owl than I am. Our oldest son is same way, scares me to death every morning kicking the wall.
Anyways she's more of night owl than I am. Our oldest son is same way, scares me to death every morning kicking the wall.Wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms due to my snoring. She moves around a lot in her sleep. I stay in one place. She's a very light sleeper. I'm a sound sleeper. We use my room for marital relations. Sometimes hers to mix things up. I miss holding her at night. Vacations are always fun.
Same bed for 45 years. Both of us are always snuggling up by spooning or reaching over and pawing each other during the night.
Scott
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I'd love to share the bed, but the snoring, or other things wake me up in the middle of the night, and I end up going to the spare bedroom. This broken sleep pattern took a tole on me, so I just go to the spare bedroom when it's bedtime. Felt very wrong for a while, but as with anything else, you get used to it. Been this way since 2009, and we're still together, mainly because I'm not tired and grouchy 24/7 anymore.
My mother learned to sleep through the snoring. I've heard my father snore. She had a lot of learning to do.
I have to take Ambien to sleep in a quiet room, so imagine me trying it next to a freight train.
My mother learned to sleep through the snoring. I've heard my father snore. She had a lot of learning to do.
I have to take Ambien to sleep in a quiet room, so imagine me trying it next to a freight train.
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