I lost my father today
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Too young, too fast, but at least you had some time with him before the end.
The heart doc was amazed he kept working and lasted another week. With 100% blockages we all were shocked.
Sorry for your loss, 53' Stude.
I've often pondered this now that my parents are in their 70s, especially with my Dad as he is more visibly declining than my mom is. I understand the working part, my dad worked right up to within a few months of his 70th birthday. He finally confided in me that he was afraid of lacking purpose in life if he wasn't working.
I had my only child later in life (45) and try to emphasize that we don't live forever and that Grandma and Grandpa will not always be with us. She lost her mother at 10 months old so she's already had to navigate some of these things, like feelings for and lionization of a mother she never knew. I'm remarried now and my new wife is an amazing mother to my child with the patience of Job for some of these questions that she comes up with out of the blue.
Life is short, love as much as you can.
I've often pondered this now that my parents are in their 70s, especially with my Dad as he is more visibly declining than my mom is. I understand the working part, my dad worked right up to within a few months of his 70th birthday. He finally confided in me that he was afraid of lacking purpose in life if he wasn't working.
I had my only child later in life (45) and try to emphasize that we don't live forever and that Grandma and Grandpa will not always be with us. She lost her mother at 10 months old so she's already had to navigate some of these things, like feelings for and lionization of a mother she never knew. I'm remarried now and my new wife is an amazing mother to my child with the patience of Job for some of these questions that she comes up with out of the blue.
Life is short, love as much as you can.
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Nice to have your BITOG brothers help you with your grief. My Sympathies
I need to telll all of you folks this. If you have sharp burning chest pains like dad did while driving: stop please and call 911. Very lucky my father didn’t have accident while driving a truck axle dump truck on highway. Also go see a doctor once a year as well. Dad neve ever did. Had high blood psi and script for med for it but never got it filled.
If you do these they can save your life. Don’t end up like my stubborn father who was ignorant on lots of things and never wanted to learn.
If you do these they can save your life. Don’t end up like my stubborn father who was ignorant on lots of things and never wanted to learn.
Sorry for your loss man. I can't imagine how difficult this is, as my own father has been a huge positive influence on my life.
One of my best friends is going through a similar thing with his father. He is getting up there in age, and refuses to go to the doctor, and doesn't trust medical professionals. He has a few health issues, and has been in the hospital for a few days because of small issues that turned into much bigger ones. He is at the point where if he takes action, he could certainly live longer, but if he doesn't, he may not be around much longer. Definitely a difficult situation.
One of my best friends is going through a similar thing with his father. He is getting up there in age, and refuses to go to the doctor, and doesn't trust medical professionals. He has a few health issues, and has been in the hospital for a few days because of small issues that turned into much bigger ones. He is at the point where if he takes action, he could certainly live longer, but if he doesn't, he may not be around much longer. Definitely a difficult situation.
Triple_Se7en
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Is your Dad with your Mom now? Or is she still with the living?
What was your father's first name? I'll light a church candle in his commemoration this Sunday. But the best prayer in front of that lit candle is when I include his first name.
RIP Adam's Father.
What was your father's first name? I'll light a church candle in his commemoration this Sunday. But the best prayer in front of that lit candle is when I include his first name.
RIP Adam's Father.
Adam,
Condolences to you and your family. Cherish the memories, learn from all he taught you and things that you observed maybe what to do different. Look at the pictures of what you did together, listen to the songs he forced you to listen to in the car, smile, laugh, cry and remember he's looking out for you.
My dad passed at 80 but his last 5 years were a pretty quick decline. He was getting tired of all the doctors and appointments. He always went for physicals, meds etc but sometimes it just happens. At the end he was in a rehab facility and doing dialysis but no matter what he was smiling and treating people with respect and how he wanted to be treated or better.
Condolences to you and your family. Cherish the memories, learn from all he taught you and things that you observed maybe what to do different. Look at the pictures of what you did together, listen to the songs he forced you to listen to in the car, smile, laugh, cry and remember he's looking out for you.
My dad passed at 80 but his last 5 years were a pretty quick decline. He was getting tired of all the doctors and appointments. He always went for physicals, meds etc but sometimes it just happens. At the end he was in a rehab facility and doing dialysis but no matter what he was smiling and treating people with respect and how he wanted to be treated or better.
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As a contemporary of your father, I can well understand his reluctance to accept his frail condition. It may well be that he was coming to terms with his situation and didn’t realize just how little time he had. Or maybe, he was following up on his condition but since he was comfortable enough to work he didn’t feel a need to push the docs to see him right away. However, be comforted that he did work that final week. He got to go out doing what he wanted to do and living a full life. That, in itself, is a blessing that you may come to appreciate more and more as you reach his age.
Often times, health conditions can be genetic. Take care of yourself and make sure that your docs know what happened. There may be preventative steps that they can recommend that you and your offspring can take.
My heart felt condolences go out to you. Think fondly of him, he would have liked that.
Mike
Often times, health conditions can be genetic. Take care of yourself and make sure that your docs know what happened. There may be preventative steps that they can recommend that you and your offspring can take.
My heart felt condolences go out to you. Think fondly of him, he would have liked that.
Mike
My mom and dad divorced 1999. She’s still alive. Dad passed away at 73, same age as mom.
His first name was Larry
We all are glad he did t wreck a semi on highway and kill anyone.
Past few days I’ve been a mess as brother has. Brother gave up alcohol and went to church with me Monday night. He wished he had called him more often. I last spoke to dad on phone September 6. Told me he was fine. It really sucks watching anyone die in hospital.
I’ll take few pics of his 68’ CUDA and 70’ Dart Sunday hopefully. Probably make tool thread too. He had drill press, and tons of old tools and SAE stuff. May be some 56’ Chevy chrome trim still in second floor of his garage.
I’ll take few pics of his 68’ CUDA and 70’ Dart Sunday hopefully. Probably make tool thread too. He had drill press, and tons of old tools and SAE stuff. May be some 56’ Chevy chrome trim still in second floor of his garage.
Triple_Se7en
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RIP Larry.
Mom's getting a candle lit too.
Mom's getting a candle lit too.
Thank You sir
