Brownbox88 Im sorry about your situation,i have seen it alot in my almost 30 years in business.I am not a lawyer,however you have already been given some good advise.1st off go to the best lawyer in town you definetly want him in your corner not hers.The lawyers can take alot of your money so get in and out as fast as you can.Cry the blues to your lawyer,tell him you have so much debt you can barely afford him,he may reduce his fee.Get to a lawyer quick and secure your bank accounts and any other money and assets you have.She may try to get part of your paycheck every month and your retirement package.She will try to get friends and family to find out what you are up to so try to be somewhat secretive about what you and your lawyer are up to.The guy she is with may be a golddigger,wanting her money and yours then he will be on to his next victim soon.Do,nt threaten her or anyone else,do not hit anyone that is what they bring up in court.If you are headed to court remember her and her lawyer are going to keep records of everthing you do and say,talk as if each conversation is being recorded.You need to make notes of everything if you are headed to court,it ammunition for you.There is billions of women in the world,the chance,s of you finding 1 that will treat you like a king are pretty good,you only need 1.I know it hurts right now but one day you will look back with your new women and say "lifes alot better now".You need to look out for you now more than ever.i hope this helps a little.Good luck brother.I live by this saying every day of my life.
"When In Doubt Get Out"