Divorce law.
Perhaps you are not an expert, and I want to say that I'm not seeking any legal advice, so don't worry about that.
However, I have to wonder what the rationale behind "No fault" divorce laws is.
It seems a bad deal for folks who are victims of abuse or infidelity. (Yeah, I'm divorced from a cheater!)
While I would not want someone to stay married to someone they didn't love. I don't think a person should be able to be a stay at home mom, then cheat, decides she likes the older, richer guy better, and take the kids and 1/2 the stuff from the guy on whom she cheated.
Seems to me, like other crimes, where losing someting is often deterrent enough for a large part of society. It now seems there is little if any deterrent regarding fidelity, nor consequences for the cheating parties.
In many ways I'm fortunate. In the three years since she left, I'm now out of debt, save a mortgage and my first brand new car for me in 12 years. I'm 30# lighter, my home is cleaner, I got to keep the marital home, etc. No alimony, the marriage was only about 7 years before she left, and the $1k/month I pay in child support for my 7yo daughter is a bargain compared to living with my ex-wife.
But in many ways I'm worse off. I only see my daughter 6 out of every 28 days, there is the stigma of being divorced and the stereotype that if a man is divorced by a woman, he was the one fooling around or beating.
(Besides, are all these cheating men cheating with other men? Nope, they are with some woman, single or married, so the numbers of male and female cheaters is probably pretty even.)
Ok, I got off into full rant mode.
Anyway, personally, I don't see No-Fault divorce as a positive for society. But I'm willing to learn. So if anyone thinks this is a good thing, without crossing the sex/religion/politics boundary, I'm all eyes and ears.
Perhaps you are not an expert, and I want to say that I'm not seeking any legal advice, so don't worry about that.
However, I have to wonder what the rationale behind "No fault" divorce laws is.
It seems a bad deal for folks who are victims of abuse or infidelity. (Yeah, I'm divorced from a cheater!)
While I would not want someone to stay married to someone they didn't love. I don't think a person should be able to be a stay at home mom, then cheat, decides she likes the older, richer guy better, and take the kids and 1/2 the stuff from the guy on whom she cheated.
Seems to me, like other crimes, where losing someting is often deterrent enough for a large part of society. It now seems there is little if any deterrent regarding fidelity, nor consequences for the cheating parties.
In many ways I'm fortunate. In the three years since she left, I'm now out of debt, save a mortgage and my first brand new car for me in 12 years. I'm 30# lighter, my home is cleaner, I got to keep the marital home, etc. No alimony, the marriage was only about 7 years before she left, and the $1k/month I pay in child support for my 7yo daughter is a bargain compared to living with my ex-wife.
But in many ways I'm worse off. I only see my daughter 6 out of every 28 days, there is the stigma of being divorced and the stereotype that if a man is divorced by a woman, he was the one fooling around or beating.
(Besides, are all these cheating men cheating with other men? Nope, they are with some woman, single or married, so the numbers of male and female cheaters is probably pretty even.)
Ok, I got off into full rant mode.
Anyway, personally, I don't see No-Fault divorce as a positive for society. But I'm willing to learn. So if anyone thinks this is a good thing, without crossing the sex/religion/politics boundary, I'm all eyes and ears.