Are they achievers?
Do they know they have to work for things in life?
Or are they lazy asses?
I was thinking along these lines. An idle brain is the devil’s playground….
There is a balance of pulling kids in too tight, at which point they rebel, or being too loose at which point they have other influences.
What scares me is the influence that some of the parents these days are on their kids. Be it their language, politics, work ethic, social behaviors, what is given to them from affluent parents, etc.
Im not looking forward to how much worse the world might be when my kids get to this age.
. My point is if you have taught your daughter values, they will use them now more than ever as they try to shape their present and future.
The issue is, what values? Church values? Modern social outlooks?
I have seen plenty of peers go drastically different directions from their parents/family. Did they have bad or uncaring families? No. Did the values not stick? Seems so. Why??? Some overwhelming factor… a greater influence socially or politically I guess? Doing what feels good?
I do think it comes back to instilling in kids to be kind, safe and respectful, and that the family structure of loving, serving, mature adults is the best approach. And making dumb decisions affects the ability to achieve that.