I owned a 3.3 and a 3.8. I loved the 3.3 - it was in a minivan and it saw tow duty with a 3500 lb pop-up, and DC metro traffic. Great torque curve, great balance, quiet, smooth, and if you had to rev it out it was non-traumatic. (Torque steer was traumatic).
3.8 - we had a good one. I felt like the 3.3 handled the bore/stroke better - the 3.8 had more vibrations and seemed rougher when pushed, but it didn’t hesitate to lay down power on demand. You rarely had to rev it out because it offered good low end torque. Our 3.8 used about a quart every 7500 miles, which in my book was excellent.
These were both around 2001