When it rains it pours.....

[Pablo]

In one of my previously depressing threads I mentioned that a reason for our increased expenses is my wife having to travel down to Temecula, Ca to care for her very sick father.

Last night he passed in his bed, at home, from stomach cancer. Not a pleasant last few months. He was on some form of liquid morphine the last few days when the 8 vicodin and other drugs at a time didn't help a bit.

I need to drive my wife to Vancouver, Canada airport to fly down this very early am. I will stay home with the kids. I'm not good with this sort of thing...what I mean to write is I don't know how to handle the details, because of ignorance, inexperience. My wife knew to get a hospice nurse involved. Without her help we would be hurting that's for sure, because my mother in law didn't even know who to call when she found his empty shell in his home office futon bed last night.

Saburo was a Christian his last 40+ years of his life. I must admit, this man truly was "old school" in an interesting way. The man didn't have a mean bone in his body. He was born to a Japanese family living in a dirt floor sugar cane shack in Hawaii, obviously prior to WWII. Think about it for a second. He joined the Army in 1945, and went to occupied Japan where he met my future mother in law, a truly beautiful formerly upper crust Japan girl. WWII was not kind to her family. When they returned to Japan, she was in shock. I mean this...she thought she married a rich "American"...but he was of full Japanese bloodline. Fast forward through his life, troubling yes, triumphant beyond dreams....he was a very good father in law, and a in these days with so very few, he was a good man.

I don't know what to do now, but pray and make practical, honest, sharp decisions. Stay focused.

Thanks guys again for letting me spill my insides here, so far no one has attacked me, used this information in a criminal way....I'm just paranoid in my lack of sleep...I need to shower and get the kids in the car soon...it's not even 4 am...I don't sleep anymore.

 

[Patman]

My condolences Pablo, and you know we're like your second family here so if there is anything we can do to help you out, let us know.

 

[novadude]

Sorry to hear of your loss.

 

[MarkC]

I'm sorry to hear that, pablo.
You and your family will be in my thoughts.

 

[TooManyWheels]

Pablo:

I recently read an article about taking care of the aged, and the number one point made was that there will inevitably be things that don't go perfectly, so don't beat yourself up about them. I believe this applies to all aspects of life, but especially those times when abnormal situations and stresses occur. So give yourself a pass and know you are doing the best you can.

By the way, I would propose that there may be more very good people around than you think, although it does sometimes seem the numbers are declining.

 

[radiometer]

Pablo, you and your family certainly has had a full plate recently. I am certainly sympathetic about all that has gone on and now the death of your very fine father-in-law. What a wonderful testimony of character he left behind. As a Christian, I join you and the others in prayer that is needed at a time like this. I know that it is a time of sorrows. May God bless in His way. FEN

 

[W.T.McGlynn]

Live A Life That Matters: .......................

Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end.

There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.

All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.

Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.

It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.

Your grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear.
So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans, and to-do lists will expire.

The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.

It won't matter where you came from, or on what side of the tracks you lived, at the end.

It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.

Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

So what will matter?
How will the value of your
days be measured?
°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°°
What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built; not what you got, but what you gave.

What will matter is not your success, but your significance.

What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.

What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence, but your character.

What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you're gone.

What will matter is not your memories, but the m emories that live in those who loved you.

What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident.
It's not a matter of circumstance but of choice.
Choose to live a life that matters.
Author Unknown
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[JohnBrowning]

God Bless!!!

 

[Al]

Our prayers are with you.

 

[Shannow]

Pablo, make sure that you look after yourself.

 

[Pablo]

Thanks guys. What a great group!

Pardon me if I don't jump into petty political engagements for awhile.

I'll stick with lubes and relativity.

 

[GROUCHO MARX]

Pablo, I guess you can consider yourself lucky that your father in law walked the face of this earth.

I raise my glass to him.

A good thought for you and yours.

 

[shortyb]

It may be raining right now, but the sun will come out again and shine on you soon. Hang in there my friend.