I live in a townhome between two other units. One unit adjacent to mine is an end unit and belongs to an elderly couple. I’ve lived here since 2017 and have gotten along fine with the elderly couple. His wife often asks me to help her with things since her husband has health issues. She is Russian and speaks broken English but gets 75% of what I tell her. I’ve given her a hand fixing things or troubleshooting issues in their home over the years since her husband is unable and I get the impression they don’t have much money. One Sunday late afternoon a few years ago she rings my doorbell telling me her husband fell and couldn’t get up. I went to help and realized something was wrong. I called my wife over who is a nurse and she recognized he was having a stroke. The ambulance came and he intact had had a stroke. We may have possibly saved his life.
Fast forward to today. I’m hanging Christmas lights outside and the husband pulls into his driveway and gets out of his car yelling at me. He asks me if I want to go to war. I am confused. He aggressively approaches me saying I’m being loud playing music at 4am and he can’t sleep. I tell him I’m not playing music at 4am. He says I’m a liar and I am essentially playing dumb to mess with him and I am a punk. I calmly tell him I have a 2 yr old, a newborn and I work from 6am to 4pm and have better things to do than play loud music to troll him. For years we have been friendly. He’s always been a bit “off” - he’s always gone on 30 minute rants to me circling over the same conversation topics. He may not be all there upstairs.
His wife says he tells her when the “music” is loud and she hears nothing. She thinks he is crazy. He says that I know she’s there and I’m turning off the music so she can’t hear it. He says she is siding with me and not her own husband and he’s nasty to her about it. She says he bangs on the walls when he hears the music. I do recall a couple times of random banging on walls in the middle of the night but at the time had no idea what the noise was.
I think he may have dementia or Alzheimer’s. His wife seems to have no idea why he’s acting this way.
I see a couple options:
1) Do nothing and avoid him.
2) Tell his wife my concerns and that he needs to be evaluated by a doctor.
Unfortunately next time she asks me to come over to help her with something I’m going to refuse saying her husband obviously doesn’t want me around and I don’t want any trouble and therefore am not going into their home. Last thing I want is him calling the police.
Anyone have any idea if suffers of dementia or Alzheimer’s can be dangerous? He’s probably around 80 so I’m not too worried. More worried about him damaging our property, keying our car, etc out of anger. Any advice on what to do would be appreciated to protect myself against police involvement or other harassment. Thanks.
Fast forward to today. I’m hanging Christmas lights outside and the husband pulls into his driveway and gets out of his car yelling at me. He asks me if I want to go to war. I am confused. He aggressively approaches me saying I’m being loud playing music at 4am and he can’t sleep. I tell him I’m not playing music at 4am. He says I’m a liar and I am essentially playing dumb to mess with him and I am a punk. I calmly tell him I have a 2 yr old, a newborn and I work from 6am to 4pm and have better things to do than play loud music to troll him. For years we have been friendly. He’s always been a bit “off” - he’s always gone on 30 minute rants to me circling over the same conversation topics. He may not be all there upstairs.
His wife says he tells her when the “music” is loud and she hears nothing. She thinks he is crazy. He says that I know she’s there and I’m turning off the music so she can’t hear it. He says she is siding with me and not her own husband and he’s nasty to her about it. She says he bangs on the walls when he hears the music. I do recall a couple times of random banging on walls in the middle of the night but at the time had no idea what the noise was.
I think he may have dementia or Alzheimer’s. His wife seems to have no idea why he’s acting this way.
I see a couple options:
1) Do nothing and avoid him.
2) Tell his wife my concerns and that he needs to be evaluated by a doctor.
Unfortunately next time she asks me to come over to help her with something I’m going to refuse saying her husband obviously doesn’t want me around and I don’t want any trouble and therefore am not going into their home. Last thing I want is him calling the police.
Anyone have any idea if suffers of dementia or Alzheimer’s can be dangerous? He’s probably around 80 so I’m not too worried. More worried about him damaging our property, keying our car, etc out of anger. Any advice on what to do would be appreciated to protect myself against police involvement or other harassment. Thanks.
