Neighbor Issue

@GMFan it sounds like he has developed the onset of dementia. My mother's husband (my step dad) has dementia and he hallucinates really bad. He claims to hear things and makes up stories. There are medications to slow it down, but not stop it. She finally got him into a home and it has been better. There were a few times she felt threatened by him for sure.

Try to get them help if you can.

Just my $0.02
 
It is really sad to see situations like this.

My neighbor went through something similar. He was a great guy but over time became mentally unstable. He took on a more and more aggressive personality. He made remarks to me about doing bodily harm to a woman that he wrongly though cheated him. I borrowed a wrench and he flipped out when I did not immediately return it. I found out that he was on psych meds but eventually refused to take them. It all ended one night when his wife left him out of fear. He blew his head of. I heard the shot.
Years later it still bothers me and I guess that I am venting a bit here.

I hope your neighbor gets the help he needs. Perhaps you can discreetly contact a social worker.
 
@GMFan it sounds like he has developed the onset of dementia. My mother's husband (my step dad) has dementia and he hallucinates really bad. He claims to hear things and makes up stories. There are medications to slow it down, but not stop it. She finally got him into a home and it has been better. There were a few times she felt threatened by him for sure.

Try to get them help if you can.

Just my $0.02
This is the big concern here. Unfortunately when people are confused or disoriented they often become hyper-aggressive. If they’re physically unable to harm others then it’s just words. But if they are physically capable of hurting people then everyone should be on guard.
 
Sadly, if he was to fall at this point and you were to help him, he could say you pushed him. I’d completely stay away.

Local law enforcement should have some sort of wellness check they could do as well as possibly a means for the couple to get help.
 
My late father in law was a really nice guy . He started having TIA's . Sort of a mini stroke . It changed his personality completely . He was downright mean at times . Stubborn , argumentative , selfish , you name it . Strokes affect the brain . The old boy is suffering the effects .
 
I appreciate everyone’s thoughtful reply. The latest development now is whenever I go outside the husband comes out darkening his doorway and stares at me. It’s quite awkward. I avoid eye contact and ignore him. He is now having a battle with my other neighbor over him using a smoker to smoke meat saying smoke is getting into his house. Something tells me this will continue to get worse. I am going to talk to his wife and urge her to bring him in for an evaluation. Will see what happens…
 
Unfortunately next time she asks me to come over to help her with something I’m going to refuse saying her husband obviously doesn’t want me around and I don’t want any trouble and therefore am not going into their home. Last thing I want is him calling the police.

Anyone have any idea if suffers of dementia or Alzheimer’s can be dangerous? He’s probably around 80 so I’m not too worried. More worried about him damaging our property, keying our car, etc out of anger. Any advice on what to do would be appreciated to protect myself against police involvement or other harassment. Thanks.

If he has what you suspect (and he probably does) he's not going to remember accusing you of playing loud music.
 
War?

Maybe some old guy with a bunch of untied dollars will give you some missiles to launch in his general direction.

Avoid. Just say hello when you must. Not much he can really do to you. Ignore.
 
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