What did you do with your parent/s stuff when they passed ?

[HM12460]

My father passed away in 2021. He was a hoarder. It took 3-30 yard dumpster's just to empty out a 2 stall garage and a small pole barn. Estate sale a few month's later. It is very difficult.

 

[rstsco]

@CarLuver - I'm sorry for your loss.

I missed this thread when first posted, but the timing of its resurrection was too perfect. My wife and I met with an estate attorney this afternoon to have deeds drawn up and filed on the house passing to the surviving spouse upon the other's death. This is a typical scenario, but are just getting around to making everything official. We are a blended family and do not have children together, so there's potential for complications should my wife die first. My wife bought our house a year before we were together, and she'd like it to pass to her two children, but not until after we both die, regardless of who goes first. I absolutely agree this is the right thing to do. Having all this legally in place will take all potential ambiguity out of the equation for the kids after we both pass away and bypassing probate.

This past year, we've been slowly getting rid of many things. There were things the kids wanted so badly we kept, but when confronted with us taking to them or tossing, they said to toss. A few things they wanted, so they're now in their possession. We're not big hoarders, but stuff gets accumulated over 25 years in one place. First thing we've done was to stop buying stuff we didn't really need (new tools are always needed). We keep boxes and bags for Goodwill ready to put things in and drop them off when heading past their location. Our goal is to simplify our lives and have most of this stuff gone so our kids won't have to deal with it.

 

[k1xv]

I have a very greedy cousin. He seems to think estate property without a will should pass like royal titles. As he was the oldest son of the oldest son, he thought his grandparents estate (a farm) should have gone entirely to him. Of course, it didn't. Now he is mad at all his family members.

 

[Dave P.]

Sorry for your loss. No matter how old they are, it still hits hard. We had an Estate Sale for two days one weekend. It draws a lot of people. They won't take everything but why throw out stuff that others can use. In the process you may make a few dollars that you can put towards the cost of a dumpster. People were buying towels and sheets, etc. It was amazing that such personal type items were being bought. It was an eye opening experience and one my wife and I still chuckle about. The folks that show up to these things have done it before and they'll buy the shoes off your feet if you're not careful.

 

[53' Stude]

Late father had a pantry full of canned goods. We donated half to a food bank and rest to abused family/ single moms asssitance place. Lot of new jeans and flannel shirts went to churches in our hometown. Most of his tools we sold at estate sale. I took most of the motor oil stash as brother has tons from few years ago Aap and autozone clearances.

 

[Revving2Redline]

I would have told them to not get heavy eating on their last supper that anything that they had i was going to pack it up and send it with them. Things that people have are only special until those people who had it are gone. I have a couple items like that now and I had to have a beneficiary on it when I started and I figured once I'm gone they will probably sit and just collect dust. If I could ever find something like a toyota mr2, acura nsx or some japanese exotic.. just put me in the car and push us down the ramp 6 feet.

 

[R18Civic]

I was raised by my grandparents. 14 years later I just came into possession of my grandmother's table and wall decorations.

 

[Nick1994]

My mom and grandmother lived together, they died 3 years ago, and only a week apart from each other. My brother, sister, and I kept maybe 5 bins worth of stuff and filled a 26’ Uhaul full of everything else and took it to the city dump. It wasn’t worth anything else.