So my fiance and I have decided to tie that wonderful and expensive knot called marriage. I was hoping you guys could give some advice on how to throw a cheap good wedding. A DJ is about 400 bucks so we would kinda like to not have a DJ anyone have any great ways around that while still having music. Also any other general advice. We got the dress and location figured out everything else is up in the air. Any advice or thoughts is appreciated.
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Do the DJ. $400 isn't much. Won't be much of a party without one.
Don't have an open bar. That will be your biggest expense.
Focus on the marriage more than the wedding. It can get stressful planning such an event, and it is important to keep things in perspective. Usually the woman has trouble with this.
Don't have an open bar. That will be your biggest expense.
Focus on the marriage more than the wedding. It can get stressful planning such an event, and it is important to keep things in perspective. Usually the woman has trouble with this.
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Originally Posted By: wallyuwl
Focus on the marriage more than the wedding. It can get stressful planning such an event, and it is important to keep things in perspective.
Such an excellent way to say it.
They like to sell to the big day, and it turns some women into bridezillas. Not sure who is paying, but pick a budget, and realize that if you dont usually get chauferred, dont usually do all kinds of fancy things, that you might as well not show off to be something youre not.
It is easy to go over the top. Realize that it is the celebration of a life-changing decision, NOT some display of extravagance that is just excessive and does nothing. Focus on making it personal and making the guests feel appreciated, and that you are sharing your big decision with them.
Focus on the marriage more than the wedding. It can get stressful planning such an event, and it is important to keep things in perspective.
Such an excellent way to say it.
They like to sell to the big day, and it turns some women into bridezillas. Not sure who is paying, but pick a budget, and realize that if you dont usually get chauferred, dont usually do all kinds of fancy things, that you might as well not show off to be something youre not.
It is easy to go over the top. Realize that it is the celebration of a life-changing decision, NOT some display of extravagance that is just excessive and does nothing. Focus on making it personal and making the guests feel appreciated, and that you are sharing your big decision with them.
Hahahaha. Maybe Pandora? Idk the location cost 45 bucks so that's pretty cheap. I just want it to be fun a memorable without costing an obscene amount
when my daughter got married her fiancee's brother had ton of songs on his computer so they just used it and a few people took turns with playing the songs. Wedding can be in the park or someones home maybe. Dresses and Tuxs can be a big expense so look there for savings. Actually a small wedding with the family and real close friends can be the most rewarding anyway. The big blowouts can way too stressful. A lot of it depends on what the money available is and how big you want to go.
Watch this YouTube video WITH YOUR FIANCE.... It will give you an insight on how men and woman THINK. It will be an important lesson in your life together....and its very FUNNY as well.
'MENS BRAINS VS. WOMANS BRAINS'
www.youtube.com/watch?v=UiVCD9QMAMI&feature=related
'MENS BRAINS VS. WOMANS BRAINS'
www.youtube.com/watch?v=UiVCD9QMAMI&feature=related
The dress was originally 1114 we got it for 250. Brand new just a really good sale. I have dress clothes already. We are getting married in meramec state park under a stone pavillion next to a creek it's pretty nice.
get a friend to DJ; or preassemble your songs on an mp3 or burn to a cd. I know, not as spontaneous... but hey!
we got married outdoors at a waterfall... cost was almost zero!
we got married outdoors at a waterfall... cost was almost zero!
What would I need to have a friend DJ?
I've been the low rent photographer for a few weddings where a "real" $400 photographer was too much.
A good DJ is fairly useful at the reception, if the guests are just standing around. DJ controls the flow of the party, dance floor, speeches, etc.
A bad one, like a buddy playing mp3s, won't seem much worse, but the party might seem like a bust.... you could blame "uninteresting friends/family" and not know the real cause.
There are good and bad photographers, caterers, ministers too.
A good DJ is fairly useful at the reception, if the guests are just standing around. DJ controls the flow of the party, dance floor, speeches, etc.
A bad one, like a buddy playing mp3s, won't seem much worse, but the party might seem like a bust.... you could blame "uninteresting friends/family" and not know the real cause.
There are good and bad photographers, caterers, ministers too.
a guy asking for wedding advice on a motor oil/car maintenance website. i can't be the only one that finds this funny. there are 2 women sitting next to me that are lol.
seriously -- for the most part, weddings are a fashion show for the women. proof? she bought the dress, and you now are making plans around the dress.
establish a budget, and let the women handle the rest. why? if everything is not perfect, you will be blamed for any issues, FOREVER.the guy is always blamed for anything that goes wrong in life in most marriages,whether it's his fault, or not.it's called marriage.
if you make more money than your wife, get a bulletproof pre-nup.half of marriages fail, and it's very, very rare that a guy doesn't get skinned alive in a divorce settlement.
you MUST have an open bar, or you'll be viewed as a cheap **** by the guests, forever.in the future,when the guys remember your wedding, they will remember this.the women will remember who was wearing what, and make catty comments about who had implants.
at any rate, i wish you luck, and i'm just being honest in this post. everything i said is fact, as i've seen these things happen many, many times.
again, good luck.
seriously -- for the most part, weddings are a fashion show for the women. proof? she bought the dress, and you now are making plans around the dress.
establish a budget, and let the women handle the rest. why? if everything is not perfect, you will be blamed for any issues, FOREVER.the guy is always blamed for anything that goes wrong in life in most marriages,whether it's his fault, or not.it's called marriage.
if you make more money than your wife, get a bulletproof pre-nup.half of marriages fail, and it's very, very rare that a guy doesn't get skinned alive in a divorce settlement.
you MUST have an open bar, or you'll be viewed as a cheap **** by the guests, forever.in the future,when the guys remember your wedding, they will remember this.the women will remember who was wearing what, and make catty comments about who had implants.
at any rate, i wish you luck, and i'm just being honest in this post. everything i said is fact, as i've seen these things happen many, many times.
again, good luck.
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Originally Posted By: yeti
you MUST have an open bar, or you'll be viewed as a cheap **** by the guests, forever.in the future,when the guys remember your wedding, they will remember this.the women will remember who was wearing what, and make catty comments about who had implants.
If that is the kind of people that are going to attend, and their personalities, frankly, they arent worth inviting, and the OP should just elope and do it in Hawaii or go to the JP at lunchtime.
I agree it is a way oversold fashion show for women, but it doesnt mean that she cant have a practical and smart approach to it too.
you MUST have an open bar, or you'll be viewed as a cheap **** by the guests, forever.in the future,when the guys remember your wedding, they will remember this.the women will remember who was wearing what, and make catty comments about who had implants.
If that is the kind of people that are going to attend, and their personalities, frankly, they arent worth inviting, and the OP should just elope and do it in Hawaii or go to the JP at lunchtime.
I agree it is a way oversold fashion show for women, but it doesnt mean that she cant have a practical and smart approach to it too.
Originally Posted By: chevyboy14
So my fiance and I have decided to tie that wonderful and expensive knot called marriage. I was hoping you guys could give some advice on how to throw a cheap good wedding. A DJ is about 400 bucks so we would kinda like to not have a DJ anyone have any great ways around that while still having music. Also any other general advice. We got the dress and location figured out everything else is up in the air. Any advice or thoughts is appreciated.
let her take care of it. Anything you do can and will be used against you in the future.
So my fiance and I have decided to tie that wonderful and expensive knot called marriage. I was hoping you guys could give some advice on how to throw a cheap good wedding. A DJ is about 400 bucks so we would kinda like to not have a DJ anyone have any great ways around that while still having music. Also any other general advice. We got the dress and location figured out everything else is up in the air. Any advice or thoughts is appreciated.
let her take care of it. Anything you do can and will be used against you in the future.
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Originally Posted By: CivicFan
Originally Posted By: chevyboy14
So my fiance and I have decided to tie that wonderful and expensive knot called marriage. I was hoping you guys could give some advice on how to throw a cheap good wedding. A DJ is about 400 bucks so we would kinda like to not have a DJ anyone have any great ways around that while still having music. Also any other general advice. We got the dress and location figured out everything else is up in the air. Any advice or thoughts is appreciated.
let her take care of it. Anything you do can and will be used against you in the future.
Why? My wife and I planned everything together. We had a great time, a great party, and all our friends still remember it as a blast.
I guess this is why 50% of marriages end in divorce... People cant figure out how to work together, and then hold grudges on overpriced, oversold fashion shows.
Originally Posted By: chevyboy14
So my fiance and I have decided to tie that wonderful and expensive knot called marriage. I was hoping you guys could give some advice on how to throw a cheap good wedding. A DJ is about 400 bucks so we would kinda like to not have a DJ anyone have any great ways around that while still having music. Also any other general advice. We got the dress and location figured out everything else is up in the air. Any advice or thoughts is appreciated.
let her take care of it. Anything you do can and will be used against you in the future.
Why? My wife and I planned everything together. We had a great time, a great party, and all our friends still remember it as a blast.
I guess this is why 50% of marriages end in divorce... People cant figure out how to work together, and then hold grudges on overpriced, oversold fashion shows.
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