JHZR2
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How does that stop them from dying from a heroin overdose at age 18?
Just adding to your horror story...lol
IME, you get the two ends of the spectrum that end there. The low class (not necessarily poor) folks with questionable history, who are prone to getting in with the wrong crowd…. But they’ve always had that outcome…. The other is the set of kids with the most overbearing parents, especially wJen they have overbearing parents with decent money, which means they have buying power. Those kids rebel when they get out on their own, and can make some pretty bad choices.
But none of that is necessarily salient to the situation in your OP. It’s none of your business really. Maybe the parents think it’s respectful. Maybe the kids are allergic. Maybe the family doesn’t have a lot of money and need to keep tabs on what is consumed.
My kids (which are both very young) will graze, and then leave messes in bad places. So we have a “you need to ask before going into the closet or refrigerator”. It’s not to be controlling, or mean. It’s to prevent small children from getting into stuff they shouldn’t when we’re not beside them every second of the day. We certainly emphasize smart decision making, independence, and a can do attitude, but asking to ensure that there’s some level of discipline and not just everyone doing what they want is not a bad thing, IMO.
Ensuring that kids know right from wrong, they know there are consequences and ramifications for actions from a young age, and that they aren’t kept on too short a leash is the approach that I think brings success. At least based upon my wife and my upbringing and life experience.
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