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Originally Posted By: Tempest
The judge can decree whatever they like and unless you have a LOT of money to take it to a higher court, it's the law and you have to abide by it.
Pretty much. Family courts are a joke.
The judge can decree whatever they like and unless you have a LOT of money to take it to a higher court, it's the law and you have to abide by it.
Pretty much. Family courts are a joke.
I read all the replys and maybe I missed it if a BITOG member posted about it.... but did any body suggest letting your parents hold some of your cash in their name if there was a break up and your ex-wife tried to take you to the cleaners ?
My mom gave this advice to my oldest brother and it was a good thing that he took her advice to have her holding half his money in her name.
My mom gave this advice to my oldest brother and it was a good thing that he took her advice to have her holding half his money in her name.
My understanding is that all the wife has to do is ask where that money went, and the court will be all over it.
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One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
Originally Posted By: LT4 Vette
I read all the replys and maybe I missed it if a BITOG member posted about it.... but did any body suggest letting your parents hold some of your cash in their name if there was a break up and your ex-wife tried to take you to the cleaners ?
My mom gave this advice to my oldest brother and it was a good thing that he took her advice to have her holding half his money in her name.
+1 my boss is from a pretty well to do family; he is in a de facto; if she even hints at cutting and running, he has pre drafted contracts to sell his assets (home etc) to his parents FOR $1 and only he needs to sign.
I read all the replys and maybe I missed it if a BITOG member posted about it.... but did any body suggest letting your parents hold some of your cash in their name if there was a break up and your ex-wife tried to take you to the cleaners ?
My mom gave this advice to my oldest brother and it was a good thing that he took her advice to have her holding half his money in her name.
+1 my boss is from a pretty well to do family; he is in a de facto; if she even hints at cutting and running, he has pre drafted contracts to sell his assets (home etc) to his parents FOR $1 and only he needs to sign.
Originally Posted By: Patman
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
Check with a lawyer..but you are O.K. (In the U.S.)
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
Check with a lawyer..but you are O.K. (In the U.S.)
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Originally Posted By: Patman
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
You would have to ask an attorney to be sure. I'd just see to it that my mom "won" it and not me, and that she would take care of me after everything was final.
So a mom, a brother or sister would win. Anyone but me in such a situation.
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
You would have to ask an attorney to be sure. I'd just see to it that my mom "won" it and not me, and that she would take care of me after everything was final.
So a mom, a brother or sister would win. Anyone but me in such a situation.
Originally Posted By: Al
Originally Posted By: Patman
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
Check with a lawyer..but you are O.K. (In the U.S.)
Maybe, I think a lawyer could make it so miserable and tie everything up that it might just be better to settle than to wait for the courts to side with your thinking, all the while not being able to use the money because the courts have frozen it.
Originally Posted By: Patman
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
Check with a lawyer..but you are O.K. (In the U.S.)
Maybe, I think a lawyer could make it so miserable and tie everything up that it might just be better to settle than to wait for the courts to side with your thinking, all the while not being able to use the money because the courts have frozen it.
Originally Posted By: Patman
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
I was told by my attorney that until divorced, it's all community property.
I don't know if you have any legal work regarding your current separation.
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
I was told by my attorney that until divorced, it's all community property.
I don't know if you have any legal work regarding your current separation.
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Originally Posted By: Tempest
I don't know if you have any legal work regarding your current separation.
Nope, we get along very well so we've been handling things on our own so far. The house is going up for sale in a few weeks and we have already agreed to split the profits 50/50. I'm giving her almost all of the furniture (which is only fair since I get to keep the Corvette while she is keeping her Civic which is worth a lot less)
By the time we actually file for divorce, we won't need lawyers since all of our assets will have already been divided up anyhow. So it'll just be the signing of a couple of documents and off we go. (we've already agreed on the child support amount and I've been paying her every month without fail)
I don't know if you have any legal work regarding your current separation.
Nope, we get along very well so we've been handling things on our own so far. The house is going up for sale in a few weeks and we have already agreed to split the profits 50/50. I'm giving her almost all of the furniture (which is only fair since I get to keep the Corvette while she is keeping her Civic which is worth a lot less)
By the time we actually file for divorce, we won't need lawyers since all of our assets will have already been divided up anyhow. So it'll just be the signing of a couple of documents and off we go. (we've already agreed on the child support amount and I've been paying her every month without fail)
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Originally Posted By: javacontour
Originally Posted By: Patman
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
You would have to ask an attorney to be sure. I'd just see to it that my mom "won" it and not me, and that she would take care of me after everything was final.
So a mom, a brother or sister would win. Anyone but me in such a situation.
I could always give the winning ticket to my dad and let him claim it, but I would probably feel very guilty for the rest of my life if I did that. Besides, I have no problem giving her a bunch of money if I win the lottery, as I know it would result in her being able to buy a nice big house for my son to live in, so his quality of life would be better. But if I win the $50 million jackpot tomorrow I'd rather just give her $2 or $3 million as opposed to $25 million!
Originally Posted By: Patman
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
You would have to ask an attorney to be sure. I'd just see to it that my mom "won" it and not me, and that she would take care of me after everything was final.
So a mom, a brother or sister would win. Anyone but me in such a situation.
I could always give the winning ticket to my dad and let him claim it, but I would probably feel very guilty for the rest of my life if I did that. Besides, I have no problem giving her a bunch of money if I win the lottery, as I know it would result in her being able to buy a nice big house for my son to live in, so his quality of life would be better. But if I win the $50 million jackpot tomorrow I'd rather just give her $2 or $3 million as opposed to $25 million!
Be very careful on this point: if you have filed for divorce, you are separated in the eyes of the law.
Without the paperwork on file at the courthouse, regardless of where you live or how you get along, you are still married...and all the property is common...
so, my layman's opinion Patman - you are still legally married in every sense of the word...
Without the paperwork on file at the courthouse, regardless of where you live or how you get along, you are still married...and all the property is common...
so, my layman's opinion Patman - you are still legally married in every sense of the word...
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It's unfortunate that you are getting divorced, but at least yours is civil and you can save the grief (and money) of a court fight.
I would pay a lawyer to at least look over the documents to make sure something wasn't missed that you could be held liable for later.
I would pay a lawyer to at least look over the documents to make sure something wasn't missed that you could be held liable for later.
Originally Posted By: Patman
Nope, we get along very well so we've been handling things on our own so far.
My hat is off to you Patman. Rarely..rarely can two people split up like this. Revenge is not worth the cost to your sanity. And the benefits to your son will be the most important.
Congrats to both of you.
Nope, we get along very well so we've been handling things on our own so far.
My hat is off to you Patman. Rarely..rarely can two people split up like this. Revenge is not worth the cost to your sanity. And the benefits to your son will be the most important.
Congrats to both of you.
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Originally Posted By: Al
Originally Posted By: Patman
Nope, we get along very well so we've been handling things on our own so far.
My hat is off to you Patman. Rarely..rarely can two people split up like this. Revenge is not worth the cost to your sanity. And the benefits to your son will be the most important.
Congrats to both of you.
I feel sorry for anyone that has gone through a real bad divorce, it's painful enough without the added pressure of fighting to go along with it as well. But both of us know that we need to set a good example for our son and make this transition as easy on him as possible. So far he seems to be handling things very well. He's a pretty strong 9 year old!
Originally Posted By: Patman
Nope, we get along very well so we've been handling things on our own so far.
My hat is off to you Patman. Rarely..rarely can two people split up like this. Revenge is not worth the cost to your sanity. And the benefits to your son will be the most important.
Congrats to both of you.
I feel sorry for anyone that has gone through a real bad divorce, it's painful enough without the added pressure of fighting to go along with it as well. But both of us know that we need to set a good example for our son and make this transition as easy on him as possible. So far he seems to be handling things very well. He's a pretty strong 9 year old!
Originally Posted By: Patman
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
A you expecting to get a large inheritance ?
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
A you expecting to get a large inheritance ?
We've been married almost 37 years now. Some good and some not so good. Same with the kids. Sometimes I felt like strangleing them but for the most part it has been worth it. We are different in almost every aspect, but the bottom line is that we were committed to making it work instead of just walking away. Kind of why I wonder about the pre nups. Seems to me that you are already either having some doubts or looking for the exit. Kind of takes away from the for better or worse part of things. If you aren't sure that the other is in it for the long haul then by all means don't get married.
Patman
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Originally Posted By: LT4 Vette
Originally Posted By: Patman
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
A you expecting to get a large inheritance ?
No, I'm hoping to win the $50 million Lotto Max jackpot tomorrow night!
Originally Posted By: Patman
One thing I've been wondering is what happens if I were to win the lottery or get a large inheritance right now? I'm separated from my wife, but not yet divorced, so would she get half of that money even though we no longer live together?
A you expecting to get a large inheritance ?
No, I'm hoping to win the $50 million Lotto Max jackpot tomorrow night!
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