dating/marriage

[Silver_civic]

Hello there everyone, and thought I would ask all of the BITOG members on this great site; how long have you been dating/married? I have been dating a very nice woman thats a little younger than me for 3 months now. I havent been married as I did date two wonderful women while I was in the navy from 2002-2006. I have two friends that have been married for a while, as both were childhood sweethearts/great friends.


thank you in advance for your replies,


adam v

 

[beanoil]

Married 16 years. Good times, but I wouldn't do it again. I don't think I would be lucky enough to find another woman as good as this one. She pretty much ruined me for anyone else.

 

[greenaccord02]

Been married 2 and a half years, but we've been together for almost nine. I recommend it highly. Like anything it has it's ups and downs.

 

[wavinwayne]

I think a successful marriage depends on common personalities, shared religious, personal, social, and financial values. If my wife and I ever split, I'm pretty sure I would never marry or seriously date again.

 

[wallyuwl]

Originally Posted By: wavinwayne
I think a successful marriage depends on common personalities, shared religious, personal, social, and financial values.


Agreed. I'd add political views as well to your list. Opposites may attract, but they don't last.

 

[wavinwayne]

Originally Posted By: wallyuwl
Originally Posted By: wavinwayne
I think a successful marriage depends on common personalities, shared religious, personal, social, and financial values.


Agreed. I'd add political views as well to your list. Opposites may attract, but they don't last.


Yes.

 

[HM12460]

You're better off with a new pick-up truck.

 

[Papa Bear]

Mama Bear and I started dating in 1962 .... this may develop into a long time relationship.

 

[fdcg27]

Anna and I have been married since December 1983.
We met in grad school.
Usually, a sucessful marriage is a marriage of equals.
You would not be happy with someone of a greatly different intellectual or ambition level from yours.
We do have quite different personalities.
I am intuitive, and rarely make lists or take notes.
She is more inclined to take good notes, and to use lists to identify and complete tasks.
Still, she and I are close to one another in intellect and ambition, as well as personal responsibility, so everything works well between us.
She just took a calculus class, something neither of us has done in a number of years.
She came through alright, although she told me that it would have been easier and more fun for me.
I'm not so sure!
Anyway, it is very nice to be married to someone who cares about you, and about whom you care.
I can't imagine any other mode of living.

 

[morris]

before you get married sign an agreement for separating, hopefully it wont come to that. if you do separate give her all the stuff, car,house,lawn mower, dog ,snow blower. you take as much money as you can. you can make money with money, you cant make money with stuff.

 

[sasilverbullet]

My wife and I met and I knew after 2 weeks I wanted to marry her! I waited a few months, popped the question, then married her three months later.

We've been married for 30 years and lovin' it!

 

[Silver_civic]

Thank you all for the replies and I hope to hear from everyone on this wonderful board/site. Yeah, the g.f. was over earlier this mid morning and we watched the original KARATE KID and KARATE KID II movies. Fdcg27, did you meet your wife in grad school or grade school? Just wondering as thought I misunderstood that. Also, my g.f. thinks I am nuts for loving the habenero's and spicy foods. I gave her a small piece of one that I took the vein and seeds out of; thought she would need to go to the hospital!


anyways, thanks again for the replies and advice guys,

have a wonderful week all!


adam v

 

[javacontour]

Take her on a canoe trip. If the two of you can paddle down a small river without killing one another or wanting to do so, then you will probably make a good match.

If not, a weekend canoe trip is cheaper than a marriage or a divorce.

 

[The motor guy]

I don't think it's a good idea to get along too well. If you get along and agree with everything she does and says she'll just get bored and leave. The idea is to be kinda cocky/funny and unpredictable. You have to switch things up and leave her wondering what you'll do next.

 

[Silver_civic]

Hey javacontour, ya almost made me choke there about not killin one another!! If I can get her to work on her own car; that would be good enough for me; she is somewhat mechanically minded for a blonde I will say!


adam

 

[Silver_civic]

Thanks Madman, and I see what you mean, thanks for that tip/advice.

adam

 

[Silver_civic]

Thanks Madman, and I see what you mean, thanks for that tip/advice.

adam

 

[Barkleymut]

Whatever you do, once you decide to ask her to marry you wait at least 3 months before you do it. Meet her mom, she is the one that your soon to be wife WILL turn out like. Make sure that you have at least 5 decent fights before you propose. Make sure that you make up really well all 5 times and that you both say sorry 5 times.

Marriage is not all roses and smiles, it takes 2 committed adults. Most importantly make sure that you both have the same value set. If not it will cost you emotionally and $$$.

Good Luck!

BTW I have been married for 14 years now.

 

[Dave Hess]

My parents have been married for almost 50 years and dated for only for a month. I know people back then looked at marriage differently as the way people look at it today, but I agree that here is no need to rush into something, let the relationship develop.

 

[wrcsixeight]

Originally Posted By: LT4 Vette
but I agree that here is no need to rush into something, let the relationship develop.


x2.

Men lose half their IQ when in the first stages of love.

Women know this and are master manipulators.

See the current thread about the guy who is being sued by his formerly illegal immigrant ex for child support for a kid who has been taken out of the country.