Originally Posted By: Noey
Duffy, I think the real issue here was your decision to begin drinking again. You obviously felt your control was insufficient 6 years ago which led you quit completely, and were dry for 6 years. What changed now? Why do you believe that you can control it? What made you reverse course and begin to drink?
I think the difficulty you have being around others who drink excessively perhaps comes from the part of you that can identify with that behavior, it's your mind's way of saying "NO!" to yourself. That would suggest you're not totally comfortable drinking again..that you don't really have confidence in your ability to be a "Moderate" drinker. If you haven't done the work....gone into good therapy to understand your limitations...then there's a real risk here in your wishful thinking that "Just" a beer is OK. I bet that's the rationale you used when you began drinking long ago, too. How'd that turn out?
Looking at my post again my time line might not of been clear.
Summer 2000 and prior, heavy drinking mainly on week nights right after work up until dinner, two or more. Most Friday nights were spent in a local tavern from right after work until 9ish, once in a while Id close it down. I was a mason for over 20 years and most all the bricklayers I worked with drank. Pier pressure?
Summer 2000 - 2005ish, not a drop. Got sick and tired of waking up sick and tired. I was 43.
2005ish - 2008ish maybe six a year socially, again one or two at a time. I also went back to college to learn a new trade during this time so drinking would of been a distraction.
2008is - present, I'll buy a six pack and have one a night then I might go a few days/weeks with out until I buy more. But I am like the poster that talked about his brother, if its in the house I'll drink it but I have enough control to only have one. I have confidence I will never return to being a drunk.
I've was never told I was an alcoholic but I knew I was, runs in the family. I quit cold turkey on my own, woke up one morning and said that's it I'm done. I feel very fortunate I never hurt anyone but myself, oh and my wife never left me.
I started again because I really like the taste of a good beer. Moose Head from my days going to Canada on fishing trips with my father in-law, St Paulie Girl from my days stationed in Germany. Nothing like a Nebraska corn feed rib eye/new yorker with a stout beer.
Thanks everyone for sharing.