My mother-in-law is in the hospital. She apparently has an abcessed diverticulum, which has made her very sick. She was off fluids for a couple of days, but today the surgeon said she could have clear liquids. When we went to visit her this afternoon, she was complaining about thirst, and said she hadn't had anything to drink yet. I went to the nurses' station and asked them about it. One of the nurses said, "Well, the surgeon just ordered it." So I asked, "How long do you think it will take?" I mean, we're talking about a drink of water. In less than 5 minutes, she had some ice water. I don't know what would have happened if I hadn't asked a simple question.
Fifteen years ago, the first time my dad almost died, he was in the ICU, and the doctors weren't quite sure what was going on. He had a blood infection, a high fever, and his kidneys had shut down. I asked a doctor if he could have some sort of pain medication, as he was complaining about pain in his backside. I figured he had pulled a muscle. The doctor said, "I wonder if that's an abcess..." They did a scan, and sure enough, there was the problem. That doctor saved my dad's life, and it's partly because I asked a question.
So what I'm saying is, when one of your loved ones is at the mercy of a doctor or hospital, it's up to you to make sure they get the care they should be getting. Usually all you have to do is buttonhole one of the care-givers and ask a question or two.
Fifteen years ago, the first time my dad almost died, he was in the ICU, and the doctors weren't quite sure what was going on. He had a blood infection, a high fever, and his kidneys had shut down. I asked a doctor if he could have some sort of pain medication, as he was complaining about pain in his backside. I figured he had pulled a muscle. The doctor said, "I wonder if that's an abcess..." They did a scan, and sure enough, there was the problem. That doctor saved my dad's life, and it's partly because I asked a question.
So what I'm saying is, when one of your loved ones is at the mercy of a doctor or hospital, it's up to you to make sure they get the care they should be getting. Usually all you have to do is buttonhole one of the care-givers and ask a question or two.