You all be careful :Marriage stuff

[spasm3]

Originally Posted By: whip
If you get a drivers license, it has to be renewed every four years. A marriage license is permanent. Why is that?


There are plenty of renewals and revocations!

 

[CourierDriver]

Now don't get to serious gentlemen,, marriage is complicated and unfortunately the failure rate is between 50 and 60 pct and that's not good..

 

[brave sir robin]

Originally Posted By: joaks
Originally Posted By: ddrumman2004
I could say something about a successful marriage but I won't as it would most likely get this thread locked.

As for the statement that "all women are crazy"....that would mean that all men are dumb.....when it comes to relationships.

My wife is crazy in her own way.....as she tells me she's "crazy in love with me". And I with her!!


If you really think it will get the thread locked, can you PM me? Or at least give us the subject? I ask because I can't think of what would get us locked (???).


I cant tell you for sure what he's thinking but I can tell you from personal experience and from observing the relationships that are around me. The best way to keep a woman is for the man to not lose "value". ahhhhhh so what is this "value"?

heres where I'm probably gonna get myself banned lol

value is formulated from a few things. This is in order of weighted importance.

1. the amount of money you have.

2. how popular you are especially with other women. Literally the only thing that turns a woman on more than competition is money.

3. looks. I'm not talking about being just "attractive" I'm talking about 6 pack abs etc. Think 8+ looks anything less than that and you are gonna need help from the above two categories.

Now before I start hearing all kinds of buts (but what about ___ he doesn't have ___) seriously think about the majority of relationships you have had and the failed ones you know about.

How many of them ended because the guy lost his money?

how many of you guys bent over backwards doing more than your fair share to keep your wife happy just to have them up and tell you they no longer "feel" that way about you. Once a woman no longer feels there is a threat of you finding some other woman their "feel" for you drops crazy fast.

 

[Smokescreen]

Previous post = definition for a shallow woman.

If they show any interest in the items described in the previous post...run like the wind.

Real beautiful women are those that are attractive on the inside, meaning they are nice to everyone around them. They also don't know they are pretty and/or they are humble. They value you and your relationship over anything else (money, popularity don't matter) They also have the same belief system that you have.

If you don't see these traits in the lady you are interested in you are not going to be a happy man.

 

[CourierDriver]

Hormones and such,,they are complicated, not to mention the thyroid stuff women get to go through..it is not their fault, they have issues they dont understand, ask your current wife, PS, leave the door open incase u need to get a gettaway

 

[brave sir robin]

Originally Posted By: Smokescreen
Previous post = definition for a shallow woman.

If they show any interest in the items described in the previous post...run like the wind.

Real beautiful women are those that are attractive on the inside, meaning they are nice to everyone around them. They also don't know they are pretty and/or they are humble. They value you and your relationship over anything else (money, popularity don't matter) They also have the same belief system that you have.

If you don't see these traits in the lady you are interested in you are not going to be a happy man.



I'm not disagreeing with you at all. Human nature is far more shallow and base than we like to admit. Look at what passes for entertainment nowadays. Good luck finding the 5% of women that do not fall under what I'm talking about.

the simple fact of the matter is the more "value" a person has the less substance is required or matters.

 

[hattaresguy]

Originally Posted By: Smokescreen
Previous post = definition for a shallow woman.

If they show any interest in the items described in the previous post...run like the wind.

Real beautiful women are those that are attractive on the inside, meaning they are nice to everyone around them. They also don't know they are pretty and/or they are humble. They value you and your relationship over anything else (money, popularity don't matter) They also have the same belief system that you have.

If you don't see these traits in the lady you are interested in you are not going to be a happy man.


The good ones are all locked down and married by their mid 20's, the rest are shallow.

Its biological. Women want the alpha males of a society so their offspring will have a better chance of being alpha's themselves. Any man who is able to collect a lot of what a society places value on, ie money, land, cows, goats, whatever; women will come to them. Or if they are really good looking, good looks = good genes.

Or as my dads friend always gives out as dating advice; "build the cage and the bird will follow". IE build a big house and pretty soon one will move in, or want to...

 

[Cujet]

Women are attracted to wealthy men for valid reasons. He can afford to raise a family. While some call that shallow, I'd call it incredibly practical. Why on earth would a woman want to raise a family in abject poverty?

Women avoid me. I dress horribly, appear poor, heck even car dealer salesmen don't greet me. But once they get to know me, I'm..... Still ugly.

I tricked my wife into marrying me by telling her all sorts of positive stuff (just kidding) I landed a great wife! But I'm sure my college education in aviation played a role. As many guys she dated were HS educated only. That does translate into the promise of money.

 

[SEMI_287]

Originally Posted By: brave sir robin
Originally Posted By: joaks
Originally Posted By: ddrumman2004
I could say something about a successful marriage but I won't as it would most likely get this thread locked.

As for the statement that "all women are crazy"....that would mean that all men are dumb.....when it comes to relationships.

My wife is crazy in her own way.....as she tells me she's "crazy in love with me". And I with her!!


If you really think it will get the thread locked, can you PM me? Or at least give us the subject? I ask because I can't think of what would get us locked (???).


I cant tell you for sure what he's thinking but I can tell you from personal experience and from observing the relationships that are around me. The best way to keep a woman is for the man to not lose "value". ahhhhhh so what is this "value"?

heres where I'm probably gonna get myself banned lol

value is formulated from a few things. This is in order of weighted importance.

1. the amount of money you have.

2. how popular you are especially with other women. Literally the only thing that turns a woman on more than competition is money.

3. looks. I'm not talking about being just "attractive" I'm talking about 6 pack abs etc. Think 8+ looks anything less than that and you are gonna need help from the above two categories.

Now before I start hearing all kinds of buts (but what about ___ he doesn't have ___) seriously think about the majority of relationships you have had and the failed ones you know about.

How many of them ended because the guy lost his money?

how many of you guys bent over backwards doing more than your fair share to keep your wife happy just to have them up and tell you they no longer "feel" that way about you. Once a woman no longer feels there is a threat of you finding some other woman their "feel" for you drops crazy fast.











That's extremely shallow. If you don't have common interests or goals or values in life don't get married. And for the love of all things sacred DON'T have children. Marriage is not easy and requires work, which most youth today including my peers do not want to do. I'm young (Regan baby) and I work hard and make good money and I'm happily married. My wife is a hard working substitute (props for working with the youth today!) teacher and makes ok money. We are both happy and have the same goals, values and interests. We don't drive new cars or own the newest and greatest things or own the best home. The mentality that you need the best car, stuff, house and more money than God has to be happy and land women or men, this works for both genders, is ridiculous. These shallow people need to be stranded on an island, then again that's my opinion. And you know what they say about opinions.

 

[callbay]

Originally Posted By: Phishin
You either learn to live life on life's terms or you don't. You either find happiness or you don't. It has nothing to do with your spouse. It never has.

If you serve your wife, and she ignores you....that's a good lesson right there. Anytime you put expectations on people or places or things, you're setting yourself for failure. Expectations are pre-meditated resentments.

My soon-to-be-wife, her mother, my mother, my ex, etc. etc. can all be extremely loving and extremely "crazy"....depending on when you run into them. However, I do not, and will not, peg my happiness on someone else's mood or attitude. That is an automatic setup for failure.

My happiness is not contingent upon anything else but me, and my thoughts and attitudes.

You would be amazed how much happier your spouse will be when you quit playing the game of attaching your happiness to him/her.

I have a 90 pound Pit Bull in my house. She loves to play tug-of-war with a length of rope. She will play all day. She will do everything she can to rip that rope out of your hands. But when you drop the rope....she lays down and take a nap or finds something else to do.

All you gotta do is drop the rope.


Awesome advise! Thanks!

 

[Vikas]

Phishin may or may not know it but that is a classic Hinduism philosophy. Without it, the entire country would be miserable

 

[jrustles]

"What you put up with, you end up with, you can only expect what you accept from someone."

And while I'm not perfect, I cannot enable or "feed" obvious bad behavior or a bad personality, in ANY relationship (boss, GF, friends etc)

 

[CourierDriver]

Here is the worst part of a marriage that went south. One of the best videos to ever come along. I lived this one many years ago, it hits home...

If you've you got kids and there is room left for keeping your marriage together, do it...

 

[gman2304]

Cold-Canuck....your screen name fits you perfectly!!!