When I reported the numbers above, these are numbers which Discount tire set for the tires on my van. In fact they set the rear tires at 47psi and I told them thats too much. the PSI has nothing to do with the context. Moreover it's about the tires Discount tire is installing on the van. 245/40/R19's seems to fit just fine and are load rated to suit the van, the issue is no matter what PSi is in the tires they all look flat or extremely low.
As posted elsewhere on the oil forum, someone said that's what you get for mounting a set of "bro" wheels on your van etc.. In fact these 19'' wheels look respectable and not bro'ish at all. Then add in other sites like Bulter tire in GA have posted images of a 2016 TC with 20''s on that van. These 19's fill out the wheel wells nicely and make it look proportioned correctly. if one was to search other TC's with larger wheels one would see that most list what wheel and not what tires, because they can't find or mount the correct tires on these van.. or the tire they do mount are far below the load rating needed. The van needs at least an 98 load rating. Those other guys put 91-94 load rated tires on the van and we've already experience that with 95's
Otherwise if one has an issue with how Discount Tire is handling this, by all means call them. Had an interesting talk with a rep from bridgestone/firestone Sat he suggested that if we're having an over flex issue with these tires, we should try run flats and that's what we're going to do.
@CapriRacer is more qualified to answer this than I am,
but what the tire looks like is immaterial, it's whether you are matching the load carrying capacity of what the OE spec'd, which can be determined using the load tables.
Even if it "looks" flat, if it is grossly overinflated, it's going to be twitchy, wear the centre and generally perform poorly.
As I noted, the 245/40R19 has a 1,477lb load carrying capacity at 36psi in XL:
Which, if your OE tires were P215/55R16 in XL, they also had a 1,477lb load carrying capacity, but at 41psi.
Let's be frank here, the Tech at Discount Tire isn't checking the load tables to determine the proper pressure and then advising you accordingly. Guy has probably never seen the load tables in his life.
And yes, if you are bothered so immensely by the appearance, going with runflats (which are hard as hockey pucks BTW) will likely "solve" that problem.