Are your friends married or in adult relationships? If not, that explains why they don't think it's weird.
I can tell you that when my daughter was dating as an adult, with an eye towards finding a husband, she was looking for a young man who could take care of himself. An adult man living at home with their folks is a red flag to most women. It was to my wife and her friends. It was to my daughter and her friends. Also my sisters, nieces, etc, etc.
If you want a girlfriend and marriage, you need to be viewed by women as a suitable, self-sufficient partner.
I hope this doesn't come off as harsh, but it is the reality.
Yes, both my daughters (23 and 28) think the same way….