What are you doing right now?

[ZeeOSix]

The girl who I really like works at Walmart but I can’t talk to her while she is on the clock or it won’t be professional on her part I went to school with her and never gained courage to ask for her number.

Just stop by her work and say hello next time you go there, and ask her if she'd like to talk on the phone sometime away from work or go get something to eat after work, etc ... lots of options. All she can say is no, and if so then you know she's not interested. That's the first thing you need to find out.

 

[AutoMechanic]

Sounds like you need staff. A servant like Passepartout.

Not exactly. Girls don't like needy cats.


Right. Let us know how that's working out.


Some girls find the silent type attractive. Maybe you can rely on your good looks, charm, sense of humor, reputation, or at least obscene wealth? You like going to the 7-Eleven. I have no idea what you might catch there.

I hope the one I find likes the silent type lol. Especially when sports is on I’m quiet and focused. And one that prefers texting and has iPhone so the messages are blue and secured and an Apple Watch because I love when a girl is rocking an Apple Watch. I may not introduce my phobia of driving right off but once I got comfortable I’d ask her to drive me all places except work. And I have a great sense of humor and love jokes. And I can do very good cooking on the grill and griddle.

 

[AutoMechanic]

Just stop by her work and say hello next time you go there, and ask her if she'd like to talk on the phone sometime away from work or go get something to eat after work, etc ... lots of options. All she can say is no, and if so then you know she's not interested. That's the first thing you need to find out.

I would be so embarrassed if she said no lol. Hard to catch her she comes in at 10pm and Walmart closes at 11 and I see her going down the road by my house at 6am usually. I know where she lives because she is related to my best friend but I am not going to show up uninvited to her house.

 

[vavavroom]

I need to get out more.

Maybe you are not making yourself scarce enough.

I just struggle with keeping an appropriate mind when talking to girls too lol.

At least pretend you're not drooling.

I tried dating sites to no avail.

No idea about those.

And bad luck in high school when girls told me I was ugly to my face so kinda scared me away lol.

I told you that beard made you look 25 years older.

The girl who I really like works at Walmart

You can easily stalk her. I mean make repeated contact until she gets a restraining order

but I can’t talk to her while she is on the clock or it won’t be professional on her part I went to school with her and never gained courage to ask for her number.

Get her email address. On account of your phone phobia email will be better. Texting is too direct and may put you or her on the spot.

My friend told me I should start stopping to pick one up next to the road when I see them

They ain't free and have cooties, and you can't bring 'em home to meet the parents. Parents don't even like exotic dancers.

but I don’t know how I feel about that.

Reign in your desperation.

As for dressing up I’m a flannel shirt and jeans and boots type of guy or occasionally I’ll rock a t shirt or tennis shoes like Nike or Converse or shorts if it’s summer time.

Maybe try a chambray shirt with your casual outfit. Combine with denim pants and nice shoes or boots. Go for the rugged outdoor engineer look. I'd minimize the facial hair.

 

[vavavroom]

I hope the one I find likes the silent type lol. Especially when sports is on I’m quiet and focused. And one that prefers texting and has iPhone so the messages are blue and secured and an Apple Watch because I love when a girl is rocking an Apple Watch.

You're a difficult customer.

I may not introduce my phobia of driving right off but once I got comfortable I’d ask her to drive me all places except work.

Don't show your needy side until you have a pre-nup that's in your favor and are married.

And I have a great sense of humor and love jokes.

"I need a ride to work, Love. And could you get me Pho King egg rolls and broccoli with beef for dinner?"

"You gotta be joking!"

"Of course I'm joking."

And I can do very good cooking on the grill and griddle.

Need to see with my own bleeding eyes before passing judgement.

 

[AutoMechanic]

Maybe you are not making yourself scarce enough.


At least pretend you're not drooling.


No idea about those.

I told you that beard made you look 25 years older.


You can easily stalk her. I mean make repeated contact until she gets a restraining order


Get her email address. On account of your phone phobia email will be better. Texting is too direct and may put you or her on the spot.


They ain't free and have cooties, and you can't bring 'em home to meet the parents. Parents don't even like exotic dancers.


Reign in your desperation.


Maybe try a chambray shirt with your casual outfit. Combine with denim pants and nice shoes or boots. Go for the rugged outdoor engineer look. I'd minimize the facial hair.

Well regarding the bringing them home thing I’d be scared to death to even mention it to my parents just out of embarrassment because I struggle with confidence. But I also know they had to do that once too in their lifetime and so did my sister so it can’t be that bad. I don’t want to loose the beard but I do try to keep it well groomed. I hope one day someone will at least give me a chance

 

[AutoMechanic]

You're a difficult customer.

Don't show your needy side until you have a pre-nup that's in your favor and are married.


"I need a ride to work, Love. And could you get me Pho King egg rolls and broccoli with beef for dinner?"

"You gotta be joking!"

"Of course I'm joking."


Need to see with my own bleeding eyes before passing judgement.

I like being needy but I can let that part go for awhile before working to convert her if she doesn’t have those things lol.

I have been talking to this girl for a bit over Facebook met her on Craigslist only problem she is in Alabama and also has expectations for me to take care of her kids too lol. But she is nice and non judgmental but still not having that in person interaction makes me feel like I would struggle in person talking. And I’m too scared to bring it up to my parents too because I kinda got in trouble talking to girls on the internet and got caught up in a scam so I am worried they won’t take to that well. She just helps me because I’ve been dealing with extreme loneliness here recently so it’s nice to have someone to talk too.

 

[vavavroom]

Well regarding the bringing them home thing I’d be scared to death to even mention it to my parents just out of embarrassment because I struggle with confidence.

"Hey Mom and Dad, you think it would be alright if I were to get a girlfriend? I mean I could wait till I'm 40 if necessary."

But I also know they had to do that once too in their lifetime and so did my sister so it can’t be that bad. I don’t want to loose the beard but I do try to keep it well groomed. I hope one day someone will at least give me a chance

I don't like quoting movies but "There is no fate but what we make." In other words, get off your duff.

 

[LDB]

You can often meet nice women at church. And be very leery of anyone from the internet you haven't met and gotten to know in person. For quite a while. And if you let go of being needy for a while leave it let go permanently. Needy isn't a good look on anyone.

 

[vavavroom]

I like being needy but I can let that part go for awhile before working to convert her if she doesn’t have those things lol.

You evil mastermind!

I have been talking to this girl for a bit over Facebook met her on Craigslist only problem she is in Alabama and also has expectations for me to take care of her kids too lol.

Dude!

But she is nice and non judgmental but still not having that in person interaction makes me feel like I would struggle in person talking. And I’m too scared to bring it up to my parents too because I kinda got in trouble talking to girls on the internet and got caught up in a scam so I am worried they won’t take to that well. She just helps me because I’ve been dealing with extreme loneliness here recently so it’s nice to have someone to talk too.

I need help here.

It sounds like you need friends more than anything. I'm talking about people you can actually hang out and share your concerns with IRL. Join a group of people with whom you share some interests. That makes talking to people easier. If you are socially isolated finding a girlfriend or even a friend is very difficult. You said you were lonely. Most people don't tolerate loneliness well, and you need to do something about it. You could even talk to a social worker.

 

[ZeeOSix]

I would be so embarrassed if she said no lol. Hard to catch her she comes in at 10pm and Walmart closes at 11 and I see her going down the road by my house at 6am usually. I know where she lives because she is related to my best friend but I am not going to show up uninvited to her house.

Did you ever talk to this gal who works at Walmart while in high school, or anywhere else? Hearing "no" is part of a guy's life when women are involved. Just go ask her out ... breaking the ice is the hardest part. If she says no or makes excuses then just be friendly and move on. If she's interested you'll know it. Tell her if she doesn't like beards that you own a razor.

 

[AutoMechanic]

Did you ever talk to this gal who works at Walmart while in high school, or anywhere else? Hearing "no" is part of a guy's life when women are involved. Just go ask her out ... breaking the ice is the hardest part. If she says no or makes excuses then just be friendly and move on. If she's interested you'll know it. Tell her if she doesn't like beards that you own a razor.

Not unless I had too. I literally interacted with no females unless I had too because I was scared.

 

[ZeeOSix]

Not unless I had too. I literally interacted with no females unless I had too because I was scared.

This is what I'd do. Go to Walmart to look around or buy something you need ... just you go. Wander by where she works and say Hi and bring up when you knew each other in high school. Chat some small talk for a minute or two and then ask her if you can get her phone number if she'd like to talk more sometime while not at work. If she says no, then just say OK and say you have to pick up a few things and get going. You'll never know unless you do that.

 

[AutoMechanic]

This is what I'd do. Go to Walmart to look around or buy something you need ... just you go. Wander by where she works and say Hi and bring up when you knew each other in high school. Chat some small talk for a minute or two and then ask her if you can get her phone number if she'd like to talk more sometime while not at work. If she says no, then just say OK and say you have to pick up a few things and get going. You'll never know unless you do that.

I take it you know from experience lol. I don’t know what I’m going to do if she says no though. Like that’s literally my dream girl and I don’t know anyone else.

 

[ZeeOSix]

I know where she lives because she is related to my best friend but I am not going to show up uninvited to her house.

Here's another suggestion. First ask your best friend that's related to her if she is dating anyone (if he knows), and if not and he has contact with her, then have him hint to her that someone wants to ask her out but is a little "shy" to do so ... that guy being you.

 

[AutoMechanic]

Here's another suggestion. First ask your best friend that's related to her if she is dating anyone (if he knows), and if not and he has contact with her, then have him hint to her that someone wants to ask her out but is a little "shy" to do so ... that guy being you.

Good idea. I’ll do that.

 

[vavavroom]

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Motion to add a Dating-themed sub-forum.

 

[Pablo]

Every bit of advice is gonna ultimately be depressing

 

[vavavroom]

Automechanic is worried to bring a girl home. Meanwhile, his parents are worried because he's not bringing a girl home.

 

[ZeeOSix]

Sounds like a reality show.