What age were you when you got married?

ls1mike said:
1995, 21, high school sweetheart. We had known each other since Kindergarten. Lasted 6 years. The Navy is tough on a marriage.
Divorced for just over 4. Then remarried.
2005, Been married for 18 years now.

My son is 17 had a girlfriend, said it was too much work. He said there is no incentive for him to ever even think about getting
married. I said what about your Mom and I? You guys are different you are not like us.
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This is my problem. I am ready to pursue a relationship and marriage but it really seems like the dating pool is terrible. I choose early on to focus on my career and finances rather than chase women all the time. It seems that most of them only bring a dead end job, kid/kids, and baby daddy drama to the table at this point. Then you add In Snapchat, Instagram and everything else that allows people to talk to 15 different people at once and it’s exhausting.
 
ls1mike said:
1995, 21, high school sweetheart. We had known each other since Kindergarten. Lasted 6 years. The Navy is tough on a marriage.
Divorced for just over 4. Then remarried.
2005, Been married for 18 years now.

My son is 17 had a girlfriend, said it was too much work. He said there is no incentive for him to ever even think about getting
married. I said what about your Mom and I? You guys are different you are not like us.
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He's right unfortunately. I'm 32, been dating for a while and always wanted to find "the one" and at one time was jealous of my friends who got married younger. The issue is now many of them are struggling, and it's very sad. Our society today rewards women financially to break the marriage contract. Too many men now see that potential financial loss combined with how easily it is for people to fall into hypergamy. With toxic social media and dating apps it just becomes a much tougher decision than ever before.

My parents married in their 20s, had me at 25. My grandparents married at 18. Those were very different times.
 
Creekside said:
This is my problem. I am ready to pursue a relationship and marriage but it really seems like the dating pool is terrible. I choose early on to focus on my career and finances rather than chase women all the time. It seems that most of them only bring a dead end job, kid/kids, and baby daddy drama to the table at this point. Then you add In Snapchat, Instagram and everything else that allows people to talk to 15 different people at once and it’s exhausting.
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Yep that's the issue, it seems those focused on commitment to one person usually realize that early on and get married young, while the others pick up more baggage until they panic and realize the clock is ticking. I have a few female friends that are single mothers, I grew up with them in high school. Very attractive and intelligent women with good careers, but dating is much harder for them because some of them have more than one kid, and one with two different fathers from previous relationships. That is a lot for anyone to walk into regardless of their own life situation.
 
Creekside said:
This is my problem. I am ready to pursue a relationship and marriage but it really seems like the dating pool is terrible. I choose early on to focus on my career and finances rather than chase women all the time. It seems that most of them only bring a dead end job, kid/kids, and baby daddy drama to the table at this point. Then you add In Snapchat, Instagram and everything else that allows people to talk to 15 different people at once and it’s exhausting.
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Are you in a small town ?
 
Haven't yet.
but Tomorrow makes 6 mos dating with who would seem to be my future wife. ("It's too soon to talk like that!!!" - every one)
I'm 43, She's 36. both never married, no kids, and at this point, it seems like they're probably out of the question.
we've worked together and been friendly for about a decade, I've always felt the spark there, she had to date this other schmuck for 9 yrs to realize what was in front of her...
I was single for the better part of 20 years before we got together. and at 6 mos, this is already the second longest relationship I've had...

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Last Dec. at the Columbus Zoo - went down for their nighttime light display - Dating just a little over a month at that time. Got us both Framed prints of that for Christmas.
I look at that Picture, and in my mind..that's me and my wife.
 
I was 31.

I married late compared to most of my friends - I had already been in four wedding parties years and years before getting married myself.

One of my friends said something like "Congratulations - you've been sitting on the edge of the pool for a long time, watching the rest of us".
 
Sue and I met in 1974 while we were in college. She spotted me in the crowd and was the one who introduced herself. I was immediately attracted by her free spirited boldness. I dumped my existing girlfriend just 2 or 3 hours later and went out with Sue the very next night. We dated for two years then got married. I was 24 and she was 22.

Scott
 
I grew up in a time where if you knock someone up, then you were responsible. So, I married early and paid the price after 10-years of trying to pound a square peg into a round hole. 🫤
 
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