One of my best friend's is an alcoholic - Any suggestions how I could help?
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Been going through this for a few years with a friend who refuses to get help. And he just sent me a text with an audio recording because he's in an Uber and wondering if he'll make it home due to the driving. But his voice sounds a bit slurred. We worked together a couple years ago, but he got fired for going on a binge and did a no-call no-show..2nd time. The first time, maybe 6-7 years ago, I drove to his house to do a wellness check. There was a police car outside his house which scared the **** outta me as I thought he might not be alive anymore. Word had gotten to his mom and she called in a favor to do the wc (I'd called, but was told if he's an alcoholic, he's probably just drunk so no (!! 
Unbelievable) His dad was an ex-policeman. 2nd time work gave him every opportunity to admit the problem, get help and stay employed. Nope. Wouldn't do it. He took a month off and found another job, but did the same thing. He got written up, I believe, so they are much more stringent with this. Just a few weeks ago I had to tell him to please not call when he's been drinking and not to when we're talking. This was because of a call a few days earlier when everything was coherent at the beginning and within a 1/2 hour, was gone. Started slurring a lot and suddenly began talking about a bison and manual labor, fumbled with the phone and then was disconnected. Sad because his brother died due to the same thing and as his dad died (medical, not alcoholism issues) a few years ago, the way he is going he'll be leaving his mom alone.
From the responses here and what I've read elsewhere, it seems like they are the only ones who can help themselves. Quite a while back I was going to post something similar to the OP because of this to get others perspective and insight. They HAVE to admit they have a problem and then do something about it. I know he has lost a few friends and wouldn't doubt it's because of this, too. I'm a friend of one of the ex-friends and we've thought that there may be a day when we get a phone call and hear he's in the hospital or deceased.
Unbelievable) His dad was an ex-policeman. 2nd time work gave him every opportunity to admit the problem, get help and stay employed. Nope. Wouldn't do it. He took a month off and found another job, but did the same thing. He got written up, I believe, so they are much more stringent with this. Just a few weeks ago I had to tell him to please not call when he's been drinking and not to when we're talking. This was because of a call a few days earlier when everything was coherent at the beginning and within a 1/2 hour, was gone. Started slurring a lot and suddenly began talking about a bison and manual labor, fumbled with the phone and then was disconnected. Sad because his brother died due to the same thing and as his dad died (medical, not alcoholism issues) a few years ago, the way he is going he'll be leaving his mom alone.From the responses here and what I've read elsewhere, it seems like they are the only ones who can help themselves. Quite a while back I was going to post something similar to the OP because of this to get others perspective and insight. They HAVE to admit they have a problem and then do something about it. I know he has lost a few friends and wouldn't doubt it's because of this, too. I'm a friend of one of the ex-friends and we've thought that there may be a day when we get a phone call and hear he's in the hospital or deceased.
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