JHZR2
Staff member
I get it that weddings have become an oversized industry, with too much bling, too much glamour, too much "I deserve" many times. And the "events" to keep folks entertained can become extraordinarily expensive. Especially if youre not very close, being caught up in the costs of doing that is an issue that faces many folks.
But to be unable to sleep because of the concern of this points to other issues that OP should probably get looked at in private. Its outside the scope of this board, but it is an issue.
OP, you can say no. Its not the best advice, IMO, but you could do so. You could say yes with caveats - suit doesnt fit, will find another that is close, etc. The issue of anyone looking at you is more or less moot, unless you bring some abnormal exposure upon yourself through your actions or look. The wedding isnt about you, and while the concept of such a large wedding party may seem silly to many, its their choice.
I think you need to get past your concerns, and do it, unless there is a real significant cost or accessibility issue. Then you need to figure out why it is keeping you up at night, and what may be a good way to calm your mind through appropriate coping methods.
But to be unable to sleep because of the concern of this points to other issues that OP should probably get looked at in private. Its outside the scope of this board, but it is an issue.
OP, you can say no. Its not the best advice, IMO, but you could do so. You could say yes with caveats - suit doesnt fit, will find another that is close, etc. The issue of anyone looking at you is more or less moot, unless you bring some abnormal exposure upon yourself through your actions or look. The wedding isnt about you, and while the concept of such a large wedding party may seem silly to many, its their choice.
I think you need to get past your concerns, and do it, unless there is a real significant cost or accessibility issue. Then you need to figure out why it is keeping you up at night, and what may be a good way to calm your mind through appropriate coping methods.