gathermewool
Site Donor 2023
There is nothing to be ashamed of living at home. You just have to pay rent and help out the parents. The worse would be to live off debt that you can never pay off in order to live with roommates in an apartment. Imagine your parents are broke and you are broke, instead of living together to help each other out.
Beside, the main reason to move out of your parents is to live close to work and find better jobs away from home. If you can work from home anyways why wouldn't you live at home and help out (pay rent, do dishes, etc).
I wish I had shipped out and lived with my parents for longer. I shipped out for only 71 straight days (12-14 hrs/day, 7 days/week) before finding a shore-side job and spending most of my income just living. My buddy shipped out for around five straight years, living with his parents during his off time, and made out like a bandit. He basically gave up his early 20s for it, but he’s now got it made in the shade with lemonade compared to a lot of people our age.
My wife stays at home with the two kids and while I make good money we still have to budget for everyday purchases these days. We actually joined Costco recently to try to reduce our overall expenditures. I’m also trying to refinance our house now that it’s worth $100k more than I paid for it four years ago. If rates are low enough we might even consider an equity loan to invest in upgrades. Hopefully the housing bubble doesn’t burst before then.
Speaking of luck, I have had some of it, but also severely bad luck. I was lucky enough to be accepted into one of the military academies (nominated by Senator Biden, no less) through no effort on my part, I’m sure. I did well there and, while my initial pay was crap, I worked hard and make good money now. Also pure luck, I guess. I also selected a job that offered a pension. Luck again, I Suppose. I don’t live in Silicon Valley (bad luck for me!!!) Can you imagine if I did!? I could go on, but I think you get the point. Some luck can be earned, IME. You’ve got to be flexible and willing to move around or on.