I think one reason is the hotter temps these engines run at. My cars 20+ years ago would have 160-180 degree thermostats. 190 was too hot and 200 was overheating. All 3 of my newer vehicles run at 210 degrees on the dash temperature gauge. The cylinder temps have to be much higher.
I don't know what you were driving, but my 96, 99, & 07 Jeep 4L had 195F stock thermostats. I replaced them with the 205F thermostat that was stock for the older Jeep 4.2L (258 cu in) engine from the 70s & 80s. My J4L engines ran well, had improved gas mileage, and cleaner engines with 205F stat than with 195F stat, but they were also pretty good at 195F. Longevity of one of them with 205F stat was 410K miles on conventional Supertech oil. The others are still running.
My 97 Buick has a stock 195F thermostat. It doesn't like a 205F stat because it's engine is more computerized it expects a 195F stat. So I keep a 195F stat in it.
I had a 76 Dodge Coronet 318 cu in that had a stock 195F thermostat. Being a kid at the time (in 80s) I swapped in an aftermarket 180F thermostat and was rewarded with less gas mileage and dirtier oil and engine.
IME 195-205F thermostat was stock for Chrysler, Buick, and Jeep back in the day and worked well for longevity and gas mileage.
Did your old cars have 160-180F thermostats stock or were those aftermarket thermostats? What kind of cars were they?
Hotter (within reason) is cleaner and more efficient. This means cleaner oil, cleaner engine (bottom and top end), cleaner exhaust (less pollution), and better gas mileage.
As for longevity, I think near ideal is from 195-215F. Ideal is 200-210F IME.
Some (possibly all?) newer engines run hotter than ideal for longevity (to increase fuel economy and decrease emissions). So they need synthetic oil to (try to) compensate and regain some longevity. They also need synthetic oil to (try to) compensate for other issues, such as direct injection and/or thinner viscosity oil, but that's another topic.
So I agree with you that newer engines run hotter than ideal for longevity, but I disagree with your suggestion that 160-180F is better. Too cold just creates other problems. Ideal is 200-210F IMO.