My friend is using Royal Purple in his Nissan Titan truck with a lot of mods and it's been great for him.
Definitely, though, break it in hard. Drive it aggressively now and make THEM pay for any issues that show up before you are out from under warranty. A new car should be able to take it, if it has any defects they would show up by trying to break it in hard. That seems to be the best way to definitely seat the seals instead of risking them not seating as well as they could had you broken the engine in hard instead. You will possibly get some blow-by while breaking it in anyway.
Monitor signs of oil consumptions, keep it topped off if for some reason you need to, and definitely, IMO, choosing a GOOD filtration oil filter + air filter is more important than oil choice while breaking it in.
Just use a good conventional while breaking it in, IMO, and remember to break it in hard. After the first oil change I'd imagine a good synthetic of choice would suit you well, and it isn't a problem if you switch which synthetic you use down the road.
I'd use Mobil1, Royal Purple, Amsoil etc and see what YOU like the best and go from there.
PS: It sounds contradictory to 'not go above 4000 RPMs' and then say to change your speed constantly(not drive the same consistent speed)...does that mean drive different slow speeds??? It may not be a bad idea to drive it moderately(definitely dont baby it) for the first few hundred, but after that drive it hard.