Hi everyone, I would like to share with you this thought of mine....
Life is beautiful because you don't grow progressively; life is beautiful because you change and your ideas change. It changes your approach to life.
I am 35 years old, and the other day I stopped to think.
When I was a student in college, the goal was to attend, not to waste time and pass exams. Meanwhile, I found a girlfriend with whom I currently live with. Then I started to work, it took quite some time but now I have a good place. The same goes for my girlfriend. All this took away all the years after graduation.
I always said I did not want children, and my girlfriend never expressed any opposite desires. However, evidently, in life you say a lot of nonsense until things affect you.
I want to say that I stopped to think and realized that continuing to say I don't want children is a *********. Reasoning about what it entails and the idea of seeing myself in 10 to 20 years alone with my company planning yet another vacation honestly made me feel bitter in my mouth.
Unfortunately, neither I nor my company can live off our income, so we have to work and we are also good at what we do. The question arises though, but who do we work for? For whom do I work? for whom do I earn? for whom do I save? for whom do I invest? For my brother's children? For the grandchildren I never even see? mah....
I know very well that everyone is the master of his life and is free to do what he wants, work a life and then donate everything, but this is not my ideal.
I realized that in life I don't want to be a mouse, the one who lives, works and doesn't even know why. Work costs me effort, I have always been a big saver and investment enthusiast, however, at some point it is consistent to ask why this is so.
I realize that this is not the best reasoning for wanting a child and that becoming a parent changes your life; but the truth is that I am very scared of it, I myself only a year ago never would have thought of writing these words, however I realize that following my reasoning, this is how it has to be. Of course, I talked about it with my partner.
In short, I wanted to share my thoughts with you, I'm sure someone has already been through this and maybe can tell me what they think or give me some advice.
Life is beautiful because you don't grow progressively; life is beautiful because you change and your ideas change. It changes your approach to life.
I am 35 years old, and the other day I stopped to think.
When I was a student in college, the goal was to attend, not to waste time and pass exams. Meanwhile, I found a girlfriend with whom I currently live with. Then I started to work, it took quite some time but now I have a good place. The same goes for my girlfriend. All this took away all the years after graduation.
I always said I did not want children, and my girlfriend never expressed any opposite desires. However, evidently, in life you say a lot of nonsense until things affect you.
I want to say that I stopped to think and realized that continuing to say I don't want children is a *********. Reasoning about what it entails and the idea of seeing myself in 10 to 20 years alone with my company planning yet another vacation honestly made me feel bitter in my mouth.
Unfortunately, neither I nor my company can live off our income, so we have to work and we are also good at what we do. The question arises though, but who do we work for? For whom do I work? for whom do I earn? for whom do I save? for whom do I invest? For my brother's children? For the grandchildren I never even see? mah....
I know very well that everyone is the master of his life and is free to do what he wants, work a life and then donate everything, but this is not my ideal.
I realized that in life I don't want to be a mouse, the one who lives, works and doesn't even know why. Work costs me effort, I have always been a big saver and investment enthusiast, however, at some point it is consistent to ask why this is so.
I realize that this is not the best reasoning for wanting a child and that becoming a parent changes your life; but the truth is that I am very scared of it, I myself only a year ago never would have thought of writing these words, however I realize that following my reasoning, this is how it has to be. Of course, I talked about it with my partner.
In short, I wanted to share my thoughts with you, I'm sure someone has already been through this and maybe can tell me what they think or give me some advice.