Faking status for military discounts

[AZjeff]

My dad served in the Army for 2 years during the Korean "conflict". Probably because he had just graduated from Penn State with a degree in Animal Husbandry he was stationed in Albany (?) NY inspecting meat that was going overseas. He never talked about his service, he thought it was menial compared to the men doing the fighting. He never attempted to get any benefits. In his 60s he found out he was entitled to VA benefits including hearing aids that he sorely needed. From then on he had GOOD good aids. After dad died we found artifacts of his service in a cardboard box.

A question for the ones in this thread who served; What is the reason that some who serve in whatever capacity carry that service as their identity for the rest of their life and others who served the same function never mention having been in the military? It doesn't matter if a guy was a mechanic or out on long range patrol, some wear it on their sleeve and some tuck it away. Thanks for any thoughts on this.

 

[Pew]

A question for the ones in this thread who served; What is the reason that some who serve in whatever capacity carry that service as their identity for the rest of their life and others who served the same function never mention having been in the military? It doesn't matter if a guy was a mechanic or out on long range patrol, some wear it on their sleeve and some tuck it away. Thanks for any thoughts on this.

I've always attributed it to individuality; no patterns. Sometimes they may not feel like they did much, or what they did was so severe that it's locked away in a mental vault. I like talking to vets and their experience but never push the subject if they don't freely talk about it.

 

[danstraylee]

I’m a veteran and never take advantage of discounts or VA benefits. I believe those less fortunate than myself that served our great country are more deserving.

 

[I<3oil]

Up to age 62, I spent all (including being born in a military hospital) but four years associated with Army military installations in a variety of locations as a dependent, service member and civilian.

Never heard the term dependapotamus. As a kid, I was known as a dependent. Had dog tags to prove it and get into the PX until I could get an ID card. By the time my spouse and kids came along, they were family members and referred to as such.

To me dependapotamus is demeaning any way you look at it and is an unacceptable term to describe family members.

It's a newer term, mainly from GWOT but it was also used in the mid-late 90s. Since there really wasn't a full-scale war after DS before GWOT, the occurrence was a lot lower. Also, social media has helped bring it to light since anyone can post anything at anytime anywhere.

 

[I<3oil]

I've always attributed it to individuality; no patterns. Sometimes they may not feel like they did much, or what they did was so severe that it's locked away in a mental vault. I like talking to vets and their experience but never push the subject if they don't freely talk about it.

Yep, some people make it their life, others of us don't. Usually the ones being the loudest are the biggest offenders of not having done much and they have to boast about it.

 

[I<3oil]

I’m a veteran and never take advantage of discounts or VA benefits. I believe those less fortunate than myself that served our great country are more deserving.

If you served and are considered a veteran by government/VA standards, those benefits and discounts are given to you as part of your service. If you don't use them, they just sit there for nothing. There's a gigantic difference betwixt using discounts/benefits and demanding someone give them to you because of your service.

 

[Vexorg]

If you served and are considered a veteran by government/VA standards, those benefits and discounts are given to you as part of your service. If you don't use them, they just sit there for nothing. There's a gigantic difference betwixt using discounts/benefits and demanding someone give them to you because of your service.

100% this.
Use what you have earned.

 

[Astro14]

In a sense it’s stolen valor……shame on her!

That’s how I feel about it, too.

 

[Astro14]

For the record, I never ask.

If somebody asks me if I’m a veteran, or retired, I’ll tell them yes, and I have a retired ID (along with a pension), but I never ask for a military discount.

 

[Dave Hess]

My brother is a former Navy Corpsman and served in Iraq.

He is now working as a VA nurse and deals with lots of family members of veterans that are worried their veteran father passes away and his disability check stops.

Sad but true.

 

[The_Jeff]

This thread has a big conflation between actual deserved VA benefits required by law vs promotional, commercial benefits volunteered by private companies who can set whatever terms they want.

And from the original post, Mrs Dependa sounds pushy and entitled. If she didn't get her 10% from her "once removed" status she'd be demanding gluten free fried dough or something else to feel important.

There isn't enough pushback on this, same as there isn't enough on fake emotional support dogs, a similar blight on society. But who wants to be the jerk to wrongfully estimate the person's intentions?