Tough spot to be.
So, I think is best to take it small steps:
-KID FIRST!!! explain that mommy and daddy do not get along together anymore, but he will always be your one and only love. AND ACT LIKE IT!
-ex (TO BE) wife: finish divorce first!!! she has leverage until you sign papers. Keep the new friendship out and quiet. She should not have find out about it anyway...
-after divorce finished, move on with your life. Still remember, your wife has a lots of aces in her sleeve.
-Also, bad mouth or not, kids are not stupid....
My experience: I was in the shoes of your current flame kid....
So, I think is best to take it small steps:
-KID FIRST!!! explain that mommy and daddy do not get along together anymore, but he will always be your one and only love. AND ACT LIKE IT!
-ex (TO BE) wife: finish divorce first!!! she has leverage until you sign papers. Keep the new friendship out and quiet. She should not have find out about it anyway...
-after divorce finished, move on with your life. Still remember, your wife has a lots of aces in her sleeve.
-Also, bad mouth or not, kids are not stupid....
My experience: I was in the shoes of your current flame kid....