My father was a real Dad, but absent not by his own choice, my mother was always hunting him down to start arguments with him or trying to get him thrown in jail for not being able to pay child support, she tried to turn us against him when she didn't get her way, he passed away 6 days before I turned 14, it really messed me up losing him, even to this day she calls him a drunk & a lot of other names I won't post on here, the thing is she drank just as much as him & nothing she can ever say about him will make me hate him, my Dad had a lot of pain he dealt with throughout his life, my mom made his life a living hell, she done the same to me, I think it's because I am a lot like him in many ways, I won't lie I once despised him based on the things my mom said about him, but I forgave him a long time ago for not being around, one because it wasn't his choice my mom went to extra links to get keep me & him from having a father son relationship, two because my mom is full of hatred she is still running the man down after all these years of him being gone & three because my mom has been abusive toward me & my sibling over the years, I'm 35 I can go mow her yard just to help her out & she will still insult me after I get done, not about the mowing but because I'm ugly to her because I am missing an eye & I don't wear a prosthetic because I could care less what the world thinks about the way I look, not going to lie the woman still puts me in tears because her hate is so strong towards me & my Dad, but the way I see it is my Dad was a great man to have someone so hateful running him down after all the years he's been gone, I choose to love him & not join her in her bitterness, Jonas Jr Beene was a hero, he served this country as a sargent in the Army, he served in the Marines, had a pilot license, was the best cement worker in the area he lived in & above all he was a great Dad, the few times I got to be around him when I was younger were all good memories, it hurts to talk about this, as a matter a fact I was crying earlier thinking about him, but I know it won't be long before I see him again & oh boy do we got some catching up to do. Sorry about the long post.